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There are large numbers of people experiencing the realization that their mental health is not as it needs to be. While mental illness is being recognized by a more accepting social sphere, it's also the stigma placed upon mental illness that we hold, inside of our own selves that keeps us from finding the help we so desperately need.

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7 very long years ago, I was in the same place that many of the visitors of this website have found themselves in:
 
"experiencing intense pain, hurt, confusion, lethargy, apathy and a severe depression."
 
In a recent article I wrote,
 

"Seven years isn’t a very long time; but it seems like a very long time when you are struggling to notice every inhale and exhale, every step your foot takes, every smell you breathe in, every single thing that you touch, all the sounds that you hear and the struggle involves becoming “aware” of each of those factors I’ve mentioned. I know this because I’ve been consumed with doing this very thing for the exact amount of time - seven years.

 

I’ve been aware of my diagnosis, my need for recovery and personal growth from a wide array of dysfunctions, illnesses – both physical and mental, an eating disorder, and several dozen traumas for seven years. Four marriages, five children, a few abortions, one custody fight, and many abusive relationships have colored my past as well. Can you believe I hadn’t been aware of what I was coping with for forty-five years until I began this recovery journey?

 

I was totally unaware."

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24 hours a day, seven days a week, I was unaware of what I was experiencing in my life. Unaware of what was happening inside of my brain. I had an aunt with mental illness. My grandmother had her "nerve pills" that were really Valium. And  yet, no one including my own mother and father had ever mentioned I needed to be aware that I may have a genetic predisposition to mental illness.
 
I only knew pain, hurt and sadness. I only knew guilt and shame for experiencing what I knew was a mental problem. I had no idea how to deal with hurt, sadness, guilt or shame - never mind - "mental illness." I had lived in a world where everything was supposed to be "fine" my entire life. I wasn't allowed to have emotions or feelings or cry. 
 
That's what this site and the other twenty seven sites are here for. You are with millions mind you - millions of people - experiencing the very same thing. If you want to feel better, understand and learn more about yourself than you've ever realized before...
 
Then hang out here for awhile.
 
kathleen

have you been wondering if you can recover? click!

please take some time to read about this insurance plan that the AMA is backing so that you can be educated concerning what you would like to vote on should it come to that. Also you can compare what the candidates running for office would like to do compared to this plan! Be informed!
 
You'll find power and control in it!
 
Read my personal story about my son who was attacked and didn't have health insurance - click here!

 
A NEW website and a NEW television show!
 
Take a few minutes if you're home in the afternoon or tivo the show, The Doctors! it's a great resource. Check out their website by clicking here!

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There's a new site in the network! I am almost finished completing each page, but I can't wait anymore to tell you all about it! Please pay it a visit soon! It's an important topic!

                                                                                    

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You, too, can be a Despereaux in your world!

 
April 9, 2009
 
I've been waiting patiently to watch the movie of Despereaux - the adorable little mouse with big ears! Last night I watched it and I hope you'll go buy or rent this movie - although I truly think you need to buy it so you can watch it again and again - and close your eyes and pretend that you are Despereaux every day - in your every day life! It's just a wonderful story and I totally believe in it and it's true meaning!
 
kathleen

Got questions, concerns, suggestions or just want to say hello? Need someone to vent to about your situation? Are you feeling very alone? Just send me an e-mail and I'll be here for you if you need someone. I'm always available to chat or exchange ideas or to just listen!
 
click here to send me an e-mail now!

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 There are some very interesting websites that are consistently addressing mental illness and new research on the brain! Be sure to check out this page for links to those sites!
 
Newsweek Online
 
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Welcome to Max’s World 
Newsweek Online

Bipolar disorder is a mystery and a subject of medical debate. But for the Blakes, it's just reality.

Mysteries of Memory
Newsweek Online

The Culture of Prozac - Newsweek Online

from RealAge.com it's an interesting and helpful look at how to keep exercising but take a little break as well!

are you dealing with mental illness? read more!

anxieties 101 is the mental health site for the emotional feelings network of sites.
 
This site includes information concerning mental illness. The mental illness described within this site includes anxiety disorders and depression. You can now view a menu of all the information that is available throughout the network. Check the navigational panel on the left side of this page to see the page to click on!
 
There's information about other mental illnesses, but the main focus is the anxiety disorder and depression because they very often are found existing together.
 
Seven years ago, I was diagnosed with Post traumatic stress disorder, depression and an eating disorder. I had been experiencing symptoms from the PTSD since childhood. I believe my mother was depressed. I believe my father experienced symptoms of PTSD as well. Some of his experiences in combat resulted in his symptoms.
 
I made a personal decision to find out why I was experiencing mental illness, learn as much as I could about mental illness and find out what I had to do to feel well, both physically and mentally for the rest of my life. I made a commitment to myself for the first time in my entire life at the age of 45 years old.

are you dealing with mental illness? read more!

While I have a huge amount of empathy and concern for our military personnel right now, especially those in Iraq and Afghanistan as well as their families, it's still a fact that millions of people around the globe are in search of a "quick fix" to be happy and healthy after all!
 
I believe that we are all in pain, all of us, all needing help - so here I am, in my efforts to show you how I've had a very complete and successful recovery/personal growth journey over the past five years that continues still.
 
First of all, you must educate yourself about your diagnosis or what you believe you are experiencing! Here is what I have to offer you! 

are you dealing with mental illness? read more!

the underlined link word system... how it works wonders for you!

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When I began designing my first website, I was practically computer illiterate. I spent more time on figuring out how to use codes & how to make certain graphics - that corresponded with mental illness & emotions & feelings. Some people are very visual. For these people, I've put together some graphics.
 
I was also freshly indoctinated into a diagnosis of post traumatic stress disorder, depression, eating & sleeping disorders with a chronic case of panic attacks to boot!
 
I had isolated myself from my family & friends, spending one year hidden in my upstairs office/bedroom!

So while I searched for information, I began to collect it on my hard drive. I copied & pasted all day & all night long. What to put on the websites for others to read had to be considered carefully, I decided. I read every article. I pondered & reflected upon the articles & informational data that I was accumulating. How to put it all together just came to me one day...
 
"I think that if others can do the same thing that I'm doing, by reading all these articles, offering those who need help - a simpler method of collecting information to expand their understanding of what was happening to their minds & their bodies.
 
In my excitement...  I thought....
 
I'll look up the words that seem more difficult to understand, post the definitions & I'll include an underlined link word system so if you're say, 'depressed,' you can click on that word to go to a page on a site within my network that speaks volumes on depression!!! 
 
Click on the underlined link word above, "depression!"  Suddenly realizing that I needed, not wanted, but needed to help others discover what I had. Thus, my theory of helping yourself, by helping others.
 
This will help people who are so helplesslost in the intensity of their symptoms from experiencing either a crisis or a trauma, a life dysfunction (divorce maybe), a mental illness or any other traumatic life event that is causing them to suffer difficult, even painful - symptoms!
 
This is how I came to my ever present motto:
 
Education is the key to understanding! Understanding is the key to recovery & personal growth!

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"We shall not cease from exploration, and the end of all our exploring will be to arrive where we started and know the place for the first time."

T. S. Eliot

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Sluggish Economy Spurs Depression
 
To Your Health
Posted: 10:40 PM Mar 26, 2009
Last Updated: 10:52 PM Mar 26, 2009
Reporter: Melissa Brunner
Email Address: melissa.brunner@wibw.com

video available: click here Depression & the Economy

The tough economy is getting lots of people down - literally.

Losing jobs and retirement savings has anxiety and depression symptoms soaring. The National Suicide Prevention hotline reports a 36-percent jump in calls over the past year.

Stormont-Vail West medical director Taylor Porter losing your job can mean more than just losing a paycheck. He says it shakes a person's identity, too.

The first step is acknowledging the stress, and take note of how it's affecting you. Porter says a person might notice angry outburstsincreased alcohol use, or trouble sleeping. He says people know what not healthy and, if they take a step back from the situation, know that it's getting the better of them.

To keep that from happening, Porter suggests taking time for exercise, friends and activities you enjoy. He also says to keep a plan of action. He says it may get frustrating, but as long as you're making calls and updating your resume, you'll have a sense of fighting rather than being passive and beaten down.

If it does become too much, Porter says get help. A catch-22 when you lose your job, though, is that you often lose insurance. But Porter says that doesn't have to be an issue. He says many safety net clinics will offer counseling at free or reduced cost. Not only that, he says avoiding physical or mental health treatment because of lack of money can lead to greater problems - and greater cost - later on if it develops into an even more serious issue.

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What Do I Know?
by Kathleen Howe - your host at the emotional feelings network of sites
April 4, 2009
 
I can understand what people are going through now with the economy so bad. We're on the brink of foreclosure - have been living paycheck to paycheck - our car was already repossessed last year... GMAC's collectors triggered my post traumatic stress disorder when they started calling people who lived in our neighborhood to ask that they give us a message to call them. I was virtually unable to function for months. It didn't get better, it's gotten worse actually.
 
Last month, in the beginning of March, our check bounced for the electric bill. It was one of those - I deposited the check, but the bank was holding my husband's pension check - yeah... the one from General Motors.... and they wouldn't pay the check when it hit the bank. They charged me an additional one hundred dollars for the overdraft. The month before they charged me half of my husband's pension check in overdrafts for the same reason.
 
I was watching The Price is Right and the power went off. I called the electric company and they told me that they could see my payment finally went through and they added an additional charge for the bounced check. Now we needed to pay them a deposit to get the power turned back on. They had sent us back our deposit years ago for some reason and now we needed five hundred dollars to get the power back on. Now we needed to find five hundred dollars. If only I could get a free flight to The Price is Right and guess the exact amount of the prize to get that extra five hundred dollar bonus!
 
Wishful thinking... I bet lots of Americans have been doing some wishful thinking. Last year I had a yard sale to get the gas money to drive to New York City to be on that show, "Millionaire." No one wanted my junk. Gas was up around four dollars a gallon back then and I ended up not going to New York City because I couldn't afford to get there. I had the tickets and the appointment to take the test, but I just couldn't get there. I was so distraught.
 
My daughter, my adult daughter who lives in New York City was so upset with me for not going there to visit her; she labeled me a "part-time mother." She's an aggressive communicator. She's the one who has the largest chip on her shoulder. She thinks everyone else in the family hates her. She hasn't spoken to her sister in seven years. They had a fight right before the younger one's wedding and it has been Family Feud ever since. I don't think I could get enough family members together to play that game show. We're a dysfunctional bunch.
 
So for three days, until I could get five hundred dollars together we lived with no electricity. Early March in Ohio is cold. Thank God, the weather was mild and we have a fireplace. We had some candles, too. We also have two teenagers who thrive on electricity. No cell phone charging, no video games, computers, stereos or even television. The world was coming to an end in our house. They all fled and left me home alone. It was okay. Since my husband is a recovering alcoholic for over twenty years I don't drink much at all. But a friend had given me a bottle of wine for Christmas and I had it stashed away.
 
This was my perfect opportunity to lessen the pain. You can see for yourself in the other articles on this page that people do turn to alcohol or drugs or both in times of stress or hardship. I felt I had to do my part so I dug out our very unused wine opener. In the twilight from the light pole a few houses down, I placed the corkscrew into the cork. Although I was slightly out of practice, it had to be like riding a bike. Once you knew how... you'd never forget! But in less than three seconds the damn thing broke!
 
I wasn't going to lose it. I was determined. I grabbed a paring knife out of the silverware drawer and took the wine to my chair next to the fire. I started slowly carving out the cork. I was being very careful because I'm the kind of girl who is accident prone. This happens to people with mental illness. They don't pay attention as those with infinite clarity. I slowly cut that cork out, flinging the small pieces of cork anywhere they wanted to go. It was dark and I wouldn't have to clean them up until the next day - using daylight.
 
Suddenly that bottle of wine just popped! Literally it made a champagne sounding pop and I felt myself covered in dark red wine! What else could go wrong? Really! Small little things had been happening to us. My husband's daughter had turned eighteen the previous September. Child support was still taking the money out of his check, six months later. They couldn't get it together to emancipate her. They forgot to turn the paperwork into the court. Even after my weekly calls to them - they swore it was the court's responsibility - they couldn't get it together.
 
No one ever called me back when I was forced to leave a message. Three thousand of our dollars were stored in the child support bank and we were sitting in the dark for lack of resources. That's okay. They took our income tax refund too. We won't get that for six months because the child support people, in their infinite wisdom, showed us being negligent so they grabbed up our refund and we won't get it for at least six months.
 
My husband's health care plan has been in a precarious situation as well. (Oh... did I drink all the wine? It was horrible wine, but I did get one and one half glasses down the hatch!) I won't bore you with that baloney, but we had doctor's appointments coming up and my husband and I had to have teeth pulled in the midst of needing all of our money that wasn't available to us. Other people just had to hold it for us for awhile.
 
After the first night alone in the dark, the kids had gone to their friend's house, my husband got home from his part time job at eleven o'clock at night. He said the house smelled like wine. (or vinegar... he wasn't sure) He brought home the newspaper with a crossword puzzle in it, McDonald's hamburgers, and a flashlight type of light that could stand alone. I felt like I was on one of my favorite television shows, Ghosthunters. We did the crossword together and stoked the fire. It was kind of nice. We talked to each other instead of my husband being glued to the television and me, working on my websites upstairs. We actually had a good time.
 
The next night we got out the grill and cooked chicken and grilled cheese sandwiches. The kids stayed home and we went over to my daughter's house to charge up our cell phones. We played cards in front of the fire, me and my two teenagers and we had some fun. We got the shower radio out of the bathroom because it was battery charged and we listened to music and sang. We told funny jokes and farted until we gagged, but we laughed harder than I can remember. They actually admitted that we had fun.
 
There's something to be said for finding out what's truly important in life. If you can stop stressing out long enough when these things happen in today's economy... you might find them out. I know that the world is trying to drive me crazy, but I'm fighting very hard to not let that happen. It's something that I know is true. As long as we begin to trust the truth of the matter - we can be okay. That's what I know, and no one can take that away from me.

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"i've just gotta say it!"

 

June 2009

 

kathleen howe

 

I'm so pleased that people are visiting the network in record numbers! Hurray! I hope just one thing they find will be an "aha moment" for each of them!

 

I moved. Yes, something I've wanted to do for years finally came to pass and I love it. I've just gotta say that it means a new beginning for our family as a whole as well as a new beginning for me. Thank God.

 

With many reasons for the move, many of them relate to topics within the network, my family's emotions and feelings, needs and my own recovery personal growth journey. Let me share!

 

First of all... the moveThe move was something I had always wanted to do, but I went about it the wrong way. Because of my avoidance behaviors associated with my Post traumatic stress disorder it was easy to do. You can read about this by clicking here.

 

Now, my job after the move is to incorporate good or productive and healthy behaviors into the new house and the new beginning. We had to rent 2 dumpsters at the old house to take away all the trash that was in our house. Still we had to dump some trash at the dump as well. We also have some trash at our new home that we've been putting out.

 

Trash - unproductive.

 

Time To DeClutter?

If you’ve lost sight of your carpet, can’t find your clean clothes in the pile on the floor, and don’t remember if that basket holds trash or important paperwork, it’s time to de-clutter.

 

If you need a hammer and nails but have to wade through old toys, paint cans, and things that have gathered dust in your garage to find them, it’s time to de-clutter.

 

Have you given up having family dinners because you’ve lost the dining room table under the accumulated mess?

 

Do you shudder when you open your refrigerator because it’s a constant reminder that you’ve neglected it? Are you afraid when you need something the kids borrowed and you are forced to search through the endless clutter in their rooms to find your belongings?

 

Do you have to clean out your seat into an already overloaded trunk just to give a co-worker a ride home?

 

People continually add to their daily stress because of the clutter in many, if not all, areas of their lives.

 

Then they finally get a day off work only to once more ignore de-cluttering in favor of going shopping, running errands, or taking the kids somewhere to have fun. So, the clutter continues to build. They may feel they sacrifice enough of their time already and work too hard to spend their precious off-time decluttering.

 

Yet this may be the one area that could simplify their busy lives.

Gaining control over clutter can relieve stress. Sometimes a person will attempt to de-clutter their homes by cleaning and clearing only what can be readily seen by any visitors.

 

This is similar to the child who shoves everything under the bed or into the closet in an attempt to fool mom and dad, or at least to get them off their backs temporarily.

 

People become frustrated every day because they have lost something because of lack of organization. They have shoved so much junk into lockers, closets, and into their drawers that they feel the situation is hopeless.

 

Busy families will literally stuff a dresser so full it finally breaks the runners on the drawers, handles are pulled off from tugging open an overstuffed drawer, and the bottom will give way.

 

Kids lose athletic clothing, tennis shoes, and socks for lack of organization. Parents lose their ties or are late to work because their suit was wadded into a pile and wrinkled. They forget to clean their uniforms. They misplace important papers.

 

Clutter can affect grades at school, relationships, self-esteem, and careers. Have people stopped visiting because your home has become so cluttered that it’s unsafe, a germ haven, and smelly - all because you need to de-clutter?

 

You can learn to de-clutter. You must reprogram your thinking process and reassess your priorities. It will help you regain your sense of overall well-being. It’s never too late to learn better habits.

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If it's true that we're a product of our environment - and we're neglecting our environment - it's very likely that we're neglecting taking care of our own selves as well!

 

Declutter My House!

 

Almost every home has clutter. Clutter is the stuff that finds its way through your home, wandering from place to place, without a place to belong.

 

Some clutter just needs to disappear. Other clutter should be organized and a place created for it to belong. But decluttering your house doesn’t have to be difficult. It depends on how you do it.

 

There are many ways to declutter your home. I declutter my house by sorting items into three boxes: keep, give away, and trash. Then, I empty the boxes into the places they belong, and create a home for all of my things. However, this only works if you know your cluttered home is due to unnecessary items.

 

Another way to unclutter your house is by going through each room and accessing the clutter and disorganization. I determine about how much stuff needs to go, and how much stuff needs to stay. If the problem appears to be a lack of places to put things, I head off to the department store for a brainstorming session.

 

If you’re not sure where the organization section of your department store is, go to the first employee you see and ask, “Where is the stuff I can use to declutter my home?” They’ll know right where to send you.

 

Once you have a place for everything, it’s time to put everything in its place. If you start putting things away and realize you still don’t have enough room for everything, you may need to reevaluate what items need to stay, and what items need to go. Some items can go into storage, such as seasonal items.

 

However, be careful that the next question you ask doesn’t become, “How do I declutter my basement?”

 

A friend of mine declutters her home by getting rid of everything in the house that is not being used. She does this every season. She also avoids bringing anything into the house without making sure that something else leaves.

 

This is a great way to not only declutter your house, but make sure that everything stays clutter free.

 

Another way to declutter your home is to get the help of your family.

 

Don’t try to do it all on your own.

 

Two weeks before any birthday, Christmas, Easter, or other gift giving holiday, I have my children go through their toys and box up anything they no longer play with.

 

This help to keep their room, and the rest of the house, decluttered, as well as making room for the new toys they will receive as gifts.

The prospect of getting new things always makes them more willing to part with those toys they don’t really play with anymore.

 

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Handy Household Hints

 

There are possibly thousands of handy household hints available through self help books, websites, internet searches, and television shows. Below you will find what I think are some of the best handy household hints out there.

 

Here’s a handy household hint to ease your dusting chores and help your electronics last longer.

 

Did you know that you can repel dust from your electronics?

 

After dusting, use a fabric softener sheet that has already been used in your laundry, and rub it all over the parts of the electronics that you don’t want to dust. Instead of attracting dust, the electronics will repel dust!

 

Did you know that the best thing for decluttering your garden is likely in your kitchen cabinet?

 

The best weed repellent in your arsenal can be found in the baking section of your local grocery store.

 

Apple cider vinegar sprayed on any plant will kill it by the next day.

 

This handy household hint could save your life.

 

It’s a good idea to go through your medicine cabinet twice a year and throw out any old medications. This prevents taking a medication by mistake, or children getting into medication that is old and might cause illness.

 

There are several handy household hints out there for cleaning tough floors.

 

Use silver polish to clean up crayon marks from vinyl or linoleum floors.

 

Remove wax from carpets by placing brown paper over the wax, then running over it with a warm iron.

 

Ivory bar soap works well on almost any carpet stain. Just use the soap with a toothbrush and rinse well.

 

There are also a lot of handy household hints uttering up your windows and mirrors? Here’s a handy household hint that will save you money. Instead of buying window cleaner, buy rubbing alcohol and put it in a spray bottle. It won’t leave streaks and it will actually repel prints for a few days.

 

There are many other handy household hints available in a variety of places. The best way to find more household hints might be to search the Internet, or try a household hint and organization book.

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How to Declutter

 

Spring is in the air, and spring cleaning is all about getting rid of clutter! It is, after all, the first step to home organization. But how do you declutter your home? By following this simple, three step process in every room of your home.

 

You will need three boxes (large ones if you have a lot of clutter), a trash bag, an egg timer, a permanent marker, and a lot of self control.

 

Mark one box “Keep,” one box “Give Away,” and one box “Trash.”

 

Line the trash box with a trash bag. Set your egg timer for one hour, and go!

 

Start with the door way to the room, and work clockwise.

Anything you are going to keep goes in the keep box. Anything you are going to give away goes in the give away box. Anything that needs to be tossed goes in the trash box.

 

Don’t second guess yourself.

 

Go with your first instinct. Your goal is to be done with this room in one hour! Don’t dawdle!

 

When you are finished with the room, or your timer goes off, it’s time to take care of your boxes.

 

Dispose of the trash.

 

Take the give away box immediately to your car and put it in the trunk to take to your favorite charity or thrift store. (This way you can’t change your mind about keeping any of it!)

 

Then, it’s time to take care of the Keep box. Take the Keep box around your home depositing items in the room they belong, putting them in their place.

 

If it is a room you haven’t decluttered yet, place the item in the room where it will be out of the way until you have a place for it. By the time you are finished decluttering your home you will have a place for everything, I promise!

 

If your timer hasn’t gone off yet, you did a great job!

 

If it has, reset it for fifteen minutes. Kick back and relax, and glory in what you have accomplished! When the timer goes off a second time, it’s time to get back to work by moving on to the next room or finishing the one you started.

 

Depending on the amount of clutter in your home and the size of your home, it may take several days or a week of this process to declutter your home.

 

However, it will happen, and when you are finished you will have a clean, organized home with a place for everything and everything in its place.

 

What a wonderful feeling!

 

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This is the first part of my latest journey. I don't want to put down too many things at once - so I'll keep the above information for the month of June. It's a great time for garage sales and donating to Goodwill and other charitable organizations. Contact a domestic violence shelter in your area to see what they could use for women starting their lives over!

 

Get outside and enjoy the spring/summer weather! It's so awesome to commune with nature!

 

As always, I'm thinking of all of you and hoping that these websites are helping you in some way!

happy spring! take time to be with nature!

Downturn spurs "survival panic" for some

Tue Dec 16, 2008 8:23am EST
 

By Nicole Maestri

NEW YORK (Reuters) - A paralegal, recently laid off, wanted to get back at the "establishment" that he felt was to blame for his lost job. So when he craved an expensive new tie, he went out and stole one.

The story, relayed by psychiatrist Timothy Fong at the UCLA Neuropsychiatric Institute and Hospital, is an example of the rash behaviors exhibited by more Americans as a recession undermines a lifestyle built on spending.

In the coming months, mental health experts expect a rise in theft, depression, drug use, anxiety and even violence as consumers confront a harsh new reality and must live within diminished means.

"People start seeing their economic situation change, and it stimulates a sort of survival panic," said Gaetano Vaccaro, deputy clinical director of Moonview Sanctuary, which treats patients for emotional and behavioral disorders.

"When we are in a survival panic, we are prone to really extreme behaviors."

The U.S. recession that took hold in December last year has threatened personal finances in many ways as home prices fall, investments sour, retirement funds shrink, access to credit diminishes and jobs evaporate.

It is also a rude awakening for a generation of shoppers who grew up on easy access to credit and have never had to limit purchases to simply what they needed or could afford. 

Instead, buying and consuming have become part of the national culture, with many people using what is in their shopping bags to express their own identity, from the latest gadgets to designer handbags.

For those who need to abruptly curtail spending, that leaves a major void, said James Gottfurcht, clinical psychologist and president of "Psychology of Money Consultants," which coaches clients on money issues.

"People that have been ... identifying with and defining themselves by their material objects and expenditures are losing a definite piece of their identity and themselves," he said. "They have to learn how to replace that."

DEPRESSION TRIGGER

Beth Rosenberg, a New York freelance educator and self-professed bargain hunter, said she stopped shopping for herself after her husband lost his publishing job in June. 

She is now buying her son toys from the popular movie Madagascar for $2 at McDonald's, and is wearing clothes that have hung untouched in her closet for years. She said it has been stressful to stick to an austere budget after she used to easily splurge on $100 boots.

"I miss it," she said of shopping.

Resisting temptation now could be even more difficult, as struggling retailers roll out massive discounts to lure shoppers during the holiday season.

Fueled by easy access to credit, a housing market boom and rising investments, U.S. household spending accelerated in much of the past decade while the savings rate declined.

After the attacks of September 11, 2001 killed thousands and shuttered U.S. financial markets, consumers were encouraged by politicians and business leaders to spend as a way of saving the economy and proving capitalism could not be crushed.

"We're getting these messages that it is, in effect, patriotic to spend money," said Stuart Vyse, a psychology professor and author of "Going Broke: Why Americans Can't Hold On To Their Money."

The United States is deeply dependent on such spending, with consumption generating 2/3 of economic activity. But problems arise when consumers become dependent on buying goods and services to cope with their emotions, Vaccaro said.

"We have difficulty handling our internal emotional state in other ways when we can't do that," he said, prompting some to seek out immediate gratification through drugs or alcohol.

MOURNING A WAY OF LIFE

Besides an increase in shoplifting, psychologists said retailers need to be prepared for more instances of violent behavior like that seen at a Wal-Mart store in Long Island, New York the day after Thanksgiving.

"I wouldn't be surprised if we see an uptick in crime, related to stealing," said UCLA's Fong. "I wouldn't be surprised if we see more workplace violence and more violence at the malls."

A throng of shoppers seeking rock bottom prices on flat-screen TVs and computers surged into the Wal-Mart store in pre-dawn hours, trampling and killing a worker in the process.

Fong said many shoppers have never stopped to think about why they were buying items, and it was easy to ignore looking deeper during a boom that support such spending.

But now, patients that can no longer shop to relieve stress have become anxious or depressed, he said.

Others fume: "'I used to be able to afford that, I should be able to afford that now, I deserve that stuff,'" he said.

But Vaccaro said the downturn could be a time for shoppers to pause and study what they are attempting to achieve or what void they are attempting to fill by spending.

"We don't buy products, we buy feelings," Vaccaro said. "We're buying the anticipation of the feeling that we think that product or service is going to give us."

Gottfurcht said he encourages clients to take a walk or do some deep breathing before making a purchase to avoid an impulsive buy. He also recommended that clients keep a journal, noting how they felt when bought an item.

He said clients should then check the list a week later to see if the "glow" of that purchase has worn off, and it only satisfied an immediate want, not a true need.

The greater opportunity of the downturn, Vaccaro said, is that it represents a chance to move away from "irrational" and "careless" consumerism toward "a more discerning consumer."

(Reporting by Nicole Maestri; Editing by Michele Gershberg and Eddie Evans)

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