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not the teenager. We still feel like we're young. A parent's job is to find a way to effectively reach their teens
through developing and fine tuning our own attitudes, communication skills while proving our undying love for our teens who will always be our "babies..."
The Teen Years
The teen years pose some of the most difficult challenges for families. Teenagers, dealing with hormonal changes and an ever-complex world, may feel that no one can understand their feelings, especially parents.
As a result, the teen may feel angry, alone and confused while facing complicated issues about identity, peers, sexual behavior, drinking and drugs. Parents beware that in some of
these cases, teens will try self medication, modeling after their own parents' coping behaviors of drinking alcohol and sometimes abusing drugs and reach out to anyone that may understand their emotional vulnerability at this tumultuous time in their lives.
Parents react and may be frustrated and angrythat the teen seems to no longer respond to parental authority. Methods of discipline
that worked well in earlier years may no longer have an effect. Parents may feel frightened and helpless about the choices their teen is making.
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You climb into your car, turn
the key in the ignition and are assaulted by rap music so loud the windows are vibrating. You just know your hearing will
never be the same. Blame it on the amygdala!
It's a record-breaking frigid
day. You're worrying about the pipes bursting and your teen is going to school without her jacket.
You ask her where it is and you get a blank look, then, "Oh, it's in the car" or "It's in my locker at school". Blame it on the amygdala!
While you're muttering to
yourself, ''What is she thinking?!'' your teens amygdala is having a field-day. Now,
confess: You think the amygdala is a new kind of club drug, don't you?
No, the amygdala is an almond-shaped part of the brain, nestled deep in the back, that pretty much controls the way teens act for their middle-school and high-school years.
So the next time you're ready
to bellow, "WHAT in the world were
you thinking when you did that?", remember this intriguing fact: Teens are
NOT thinking the way adults think because they absolutely, positively can't do that yet. Adolescent brains just aren't ''hard wired'' like
adult brains.
Researchers recently discovered
that adults think with the prefrontal cortex, the rational part of the brain; teens process information with the
amygdala, the instinctual, emotional
part of the brain. Teens don't think, ''Binge drinking is very dangerous and stupid.'' Rather, it's ''Oh, boy, a chugging contest! Wouldn't it be cool if I won?''
What the Experts Say
As recently as
1997, conventional thinking, heralded during the White House Conference on Early Learning and Childhood Development, held that the greatest time of brain
growth occurred before the age of 18 months and was set forever by the age of 3.
But scientists spent the last
several years scanning teens' brains in a magnetic resonance imaging (MRI) machine and discovered that the prefrontal
cortex, which makes people ''act like an adult,'' isn't fully developed in a teenager until after the age of 18.
And to complicate things even
more, the amygdala gangs up with all kinds of hormones and pumps them through puberty-ravaged bodies,
making them moody, unpredictable and seemingly irrational. It's a constant struggle to see if the still-developing prefrontal cortex can head off the amygdala and shout: ''Stop! Use good judgment on this one! Think about what can happen!''
And that's why teens parade
through adolescence doing all those things that keep parents up at night. Sneaking out late at night. Moving from hysterics
to hugs in warp-speed. Flaunting purple hair. Binge drinking, sampling drugs and smoking cigarettes. Waiting until the last
minute to do the term paper..... and the list goes on and on.
But just because they may
not naturally think before they act isn't an excuse for bedlam during the teen years.
So, what's a parent to do?!
Tips for Parents
''Adolescence is a time when
everything is out of kilter and nothing is stable in the body or mind. It's the second time that kids act like they're 2 years
old,'' laughs Ruth Kraus, Ph.D, assistant professor of clinical psychology at the Univ. of Chicago's Child Psychiatry Clinic.
''The difference is that when
they're young you say, 'They're only kids. Give them a break.' But when they're teens you expect them to act like adults...and they're not.''
Her advice? Parents have to
step in as the "designated" prefrontal cortex and dispense common sense, guidance and advice.
In other words, don't just walk away from your teen and think that he or she is ready to make all the decisions without your input.
Empathize and let your teen understand that impulses are hard to fight, but the end results could be disastrous. Teens must take the time to ponder important decisions and weigh the options. They should look at both sides of an issue and consider the consequences.
Help them get organized with
calendars and planners. Teach them to write down deadlines, meetings and dates and then post them in visible places. Help
them understand that waiting until the very last minute to complete an important assignment is a sure bet for stress and disappointment.
Be there for them. Remind
your teens that while you're not running their lives anymore, you're ALWAYS available for advice and help, no matter what comes up.
Develop a sense of humor! Enjoy your teens as they develop into adults. After all, you can always blame it on the amygdala, right?
The Teenage Brain is a Work in Progress
While 95% of the human brain
has developed by the age of 6, scientists tell FRONTLINE that the greatest spurts of growth after infancy occur just around
adolescence.
Interview: Jay Giedd - Giedd
is a neuroscientist at the National Institute of Mental Health. Recently, he spearheaded research showing for the first time
that there's a wave of growth & change in the adolescent brain. He believes that what teens do during their adolescent
years -- whether it's playing sports or playing video games -- can affect how their brains develop.
What has surprised you about looking at the adolescent brain?
The most surprising thing
has been how much the teen brain is changing. By age 6, the brain is already 95% of its adult size.
But the gray matter, or thinking part of the brain, continues to thicken throughout childhood as the brain cells get extra connections, much like a
tree growing extra branches, twigs and roots.
In the frontal part of the
brain, the part of the brain involved in judgment, organization, planning, strategizing
- those very skills that teens get better and better at - this process of thickening of the gray matter peaks at about age
11 in girls and age 12 in boys, roughly about the same
time as puberty.
After that peak, the gray
matter thins as the excess connections are eliminated or pruned. So much of our research is focusing on trying to understand what influences or guides the building-up stage when the gray matter is growing extra branches and connections and what guides
the thinning or pruning phase when the excess connections are eliminated.
And what do you think this might mean, this exuberant growth of those early
adolescent years?
I think the exuberant
growth during the pre-puberty years gives the brain enormous potential. The capacity to be skilled in many different
areas is building up during those times.
What the influences are of parenting or teachers, society, nutrition, bacterial and viral infections - all these factors - on this
building-up phase, we're just beginning to try to understand.
But the pruning-down phase
is perhaps even more interesting, because our leading hypothesis for that is the "Use it or lose it" principle. Those cells and connections that are used will survive and flourish.
Those cells
and connections that aren't used will wither and die.
So if a teen is doing music
or sports or academics, those are the cells and connections that will be hard-wired. If they're
lying on the couch or playing video games or MTV, those are the cells and connections that are going [to] survive.
Right around the time of puberty
and on into the adult years is a particularly critical time for the brain sculpting to take place. Much like Michelangelo's
David, you start out with a huge block of granite at the peak at the puberty years.
Then the art is created by
removing pieces of the granite and that's the way the brain also sculpts itself. Bigger isn't necessarily better, or else
the peak in brain function would occur at age 11 or 12. ... The advances come from actually taking away and pruning down of
certain connections themselves.
The frontal
lobe is often called the CEO, or the executive of the brain. It's involved in things like planning
and strategizing and organizing, initiating attention and stopping and starting and shifting attention.
It's a part of the brain that
most separates man from beast, if you will. That's the part of the brain that has changed most in our human evolution and
a part of the brain that allows us to conduct philosophy and to think about thinking and to think about our place in the universe. ...
I think that [in the teen years,this] part
of the brain that is helping organization, planning and strategizing isn't done being built yet
... [It's] not that the teens are stupid or incapable of [things]. It's sort of unfair
to expect them to have adult levels of organizational skills or decision making before their brain is finished
being built. ...
It's also a particularly cruel
irony of nature, I think, that right at this time when the brain is most vulnerable is also the time when teens are most likely to experiment
with drugs or alcohol.
Sometimes when I'm working
with teens, I actually show them these brain development curves, how they peak at puberty and then prune down and try to reason
with them that if they're doing drugs or alcohol that evening, it may not just be affecting their brains for that night or
even for that weekend, but for the next 80 years of their life. ...
Tell me a little bit about how the brain develops.
How does the brain - arguably
the most complicated 3 lb. mass of matter in the known universe - how does the brain become the brain? It does so through
two simple but powerful processes.
The first one is over-production.
The brain produces way more cells and connections than can possibly survive. There's only so many nutrients,
there's only so many growth factors, there's only so much room in the skull. After this vast over-production, there's a fierce,
competitive elimination, in which the brain cells and connections fight it out for survival. Only a small percentage of the cells and connections make it.
This is
a process that we knew happened in the womb, maybe even the first 18 months of life. But
it was only when we started following the same children by scanning their brains at 2 year intervals that we detected a second wave of over-production.
This second wave of over-production
is manifest by an actual thickening in the gray matter, or the thinking part, in the front part of the brain.
As this second wave of over-production
is occurring, it prepares the adolescent brain for the challenges of entering the next stage of life, the adult years. There's
enormous potential at that time. People can take many different life directions.
But about around that time
of puberty, people start specializing, so to speak. They start deciding,
"This is what I'm going to be good at, whether it be sports or academics or art or music." All the life choices, even though they're still there, start getting whittled away and we have to start sort of focusing in
on what makes us unique and special. ...
Do you have particular concerns about that period, too, though?
Yes. It's a time of enormous opportunity and of enormous risk. And how the teens
spend their time seems to be particularly crucial. If the "Lose it or use it" principle holds true,
then the activities of the teen may help guide the hard-wiring, actual physical connections in their brain. ...
Can you describe to me what people used to believe about the brain, actually, very recently?
One of the most exciting discoveries from recent neuroscience research is how incredibly plastic the human brain is. For a long time, we used to think that the brain, because it's already 95% of adult size by age 6, things were largely set in place early in life. ...
[There
was the] saying. "Give me your child and by the age of 5, I can make him a priest or a thief or a scholar."
[There
was] this notion that things were largely set at fairly early ages. And now we realize that isn't true; that even throughout
childhood and even the teen years, there's enormous capacity
for change. We think that this capacity for change is very empowering for teens.
...
This is an area of neuroscience
that's receiving a great deal of attention ... the forces that can guide this plasticity.
How do we optimize the brain's ability to learn?
Are schools doing a good job?
Are we as parents doing a good job?
And the challenge now is to ... bridging the gap between neuroscience & practical advice for parents,
teachers & society. We're not there yet, but we're
closer than ever & it's really an exciting time in neuroscience. ...
The next step will be, what
can you do about it, what can we do to help people? What can we do to help the teen optimize the
development of their own brain? ...
There has been a great deal of attention on the
early years and particularly on stimulating the early brain. What do you think of that work and that popularization of that
brain science?
There's been a great deal
of emphasis in the 1990's on the critical importance of the first three years. I certainly applaud those efforts. But what happens sometimes
when an area is emphasized so much, is other areas are forgotten.
And even though the first
3 years are important, so are the next 16. And the ages between 3 and 16, there's still enormous dynamic activity happening
in brain biology. I think that that might have been somewhat overlooked w/the emphasis on the early years. ...
Not so long
ago, people were emphasizing teaching little children through flashcards, through particular kinds of mobiles with black and white checks on them, playing Mozart.
In fact,
some states have sent CD's back with new mothers. What do you think of that? Has that been a misinterpretation of brain science?
... We
all want to do the best for our children. And what I fear is happening is that we're leaping too far from the neuroscience to such things. I don't think there is any established videotape or CD or computer program or type of music to play that we've shown with
any scientific backing to actually help our children.
The more technical and
more advanced the science becomes, often the more it leads us back to some very basic tenets of spending
loving, quality time with our children. The brain is largely wired for social interaction and for bonding with caretakers.
And sometimes it's even
disappointing to people that, with all the science and all the advances the best advice we can give is things that our grandmother
could have told us generations ago:
I think [it] probably does more harm than good for parents to be confronted with so many of these conflicting reports in the media without any scientific basis. ...
What directions is the research taking to explore how we can
optimize brain development?
Now that we've been able to
detect the developmental path of different parts of the brain, the next phase of our research is to try to understand what influences these brain development paths.
Is it nutrient or parenting or video games or
the activity of the [child]? Or is it genes? By studying
twins, we can begin to address some of these very basic nature/nurture-type of questions.
i.e., when twins are in the
1st grade, their parents often dress them in the same clothes. They get the same haircut. It's sort of cute how alike they
are. But that's not as cool in high school anymore. And so a lot of the twins as teens in high school start doing different
things.
The one who was a little bit
better in sports may become an athlete. The one who was a little bit better at academics may become a scholar. Or one may
turn to music and one to art. But they often have different daily activities.
So we can scan the brains
when the twins are young and doing everything very much alike; then we can scan them as teenagers, when they start having
different daily activities. This gives us a sense of which parts of the brain are influenced by behavior and which parts by
the genes themselves.
We've already got some interesting
early data on this. One part of the brain is called the corpus callosum:
a thick cable of nerves that connects that two
halves of the brain and is involved in creativity and higher type of thinking.
It's very popular for imaging
studies because it leaps out of the picture. It's very easy to measure and quantify.
It's also interesting because
it changes a lot throughout childhood & adolescence. It's been reported to be different in size & shape in many different illnesses that happen during childhood ... many
higher cognitive thought [processes] like creativity & ability to solve problems.
So it's been of great interest,
especially to child psychiatrists. And what we find is that the size & shape of the corpus
callosum is remarkably similar amongst twins ... & [so] seems to be surprisingly under the
control of the genes.
But another part of the brain
-- the cerebellum, in the back of the brain -- isn't very genetically
controlled. Identical twins' cerebellum are no more alike than non-identical twins.
So we think this part of the brain is very susceptible to the environment.
And interestingly, it's a part of the brain that changes most during the teen years. This part of the brain hasn't finished growing
well into the early 20's, even. The cerebellum used to be thought to be involved
in the coordination of our muscles. So if your cerebellum is working well, you were
graceful, a good dancer, a good athlete.
But we now know it's also
involved in coordination of our cognitive processes, our thinking
processes. Just like one can be physically clumsy, one can be kind of mentally clumsy.
And this ability to smooth
out all the different intellectual processes to navigate the complicated social life of the teen
& to get thru these things smoothly & gracefully instead of lurching ... seems to
be a function of the cerebellum.
And so we think it's intriguing
that we see all these dynamic changes in the cerebellum taking place during the teen years, along with the changes in the behaviors that the cerebellum sub-serves.
What would influence the development
of the cerebellum?
Traditionally it was thought
that physical activity would most influence the cerebellum & that's still one of the
leading thoughts. It actually raises thoughts about, as a society, we're less active than we ever
have been in the history of humanity.
We're good w/our thumbs &
video games & such. But as far as actual physical activity, running, jumping, playing, children are doing less & less
of that & we wonder, long term, whether that may have an effect on the development of the cerebellum.
The recess & play seems
to be the first thing that is cut out of school curriculums in tight times. But those actually may be as important, or maybe
even more important, than some of the academic subjects that the children are doing. ...
We think that the "Use it
or lose it" principle holds for the cerebellum as well. If the cerebellum
is exercised & used, both for physical activity but also for cognitive activities, that it'll enhance its development.
... One analogy that computer
people use is that [the cerebellum is] like a math co-processor. It's not essential for
any activity. People can get by quite well w/out large chunks of it. But it makes many activities better.
The more complicated the activity,
the more we call upon the cerebellum to help us solve the problem. And so almost anything
that one can think of as higher thought -- mathematics, music, philosophy, decision making, social skills -- seems to draw
upon the cerebellum. ...
The relationship between the
findings that we have in the cerebellum & sort of practical advice or the links between
behavior aren't well worked out yet. That's going to be one of the great challenges of neuroscience -- to go from these neuroscience
facts to useful information for parents, for teachers or for society.
But it's just so recently
that we've been able to capture the cerebellum that no work has yet been done on the forces
that will shape the cerebellum or the link between the cerebellum
shape or size & function.
When you look at the recent work that you've done in terms
of the frontal cortex, do you see a difference between girls & boys?
Yes.
One of the things that we're particularly interested in as child psychiatrists is the difference between boys' brains &
girls' brains, because nearly everything that we look at as child psychiatrists is different between boys & girls -- different
ages of onset, different symptoms, different prevalences & outcomes.
Almost everything in childhood
is more common in boys -- autism, dyslexia, learning disabilities, ADHD, Tourette's syndrome -- are all more common in boys. Only anorexia nervosa is more common in girls. So we wonder
if the differences between boys' & girls' brains might help explain some of these clinical differences.
The male
brain is about 10% larger than the female brain across all the stages of ... 3 to 20; not to imply that the increased
size implies any sort of advantage, because it doesn't. The IQs are very similar. But there
are differences between the boy & girl brains, both in the size of certain structures & in their developmental path.
The basal
ganglia which are a part of the brain that help the frontal lobe do executive functioning
are larger in females & this is a part of the brain that is often smaller in the childhood illnesses. I mentioned, such
as ADD & Tourette's syndrome.
So girls, by virtue of having larger basal ganglia, may be afforded some protection against these illnesses. But in the
general trend for brain maturation, it's that girls' brains mature earlier than boys' brains.
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So... parents... considering what this information is telling you about the teenage brain
I believe it's important to begin to think more about your child's or your teens educational source.
This is an extremely important time for your teen. Just as in the early years when the brain
is developing very quickly - this time is also crucial for normal development to take place. We've never known these facts
before as parents and we haven't been forced to become accountable for the environment our teens are exposed to while their
brain is finishing it's very important developmental period.
While I'm not endorsing these videos to be the only viable truth for our educational system
- I am advocating that it's time that parents become more involved in the public educational system.
I'm also not that thrilled with the private school environments. I've experienced very negative
attitudes of teachers who have been left in authority with no one to question it.
I'm advocating that parents become very involved in all aspects of the education of their
children and teens and that in that involvement we try to instill our values, better standards and the optimal opportunities
for our kids to learn from so that they can be all they can be.
How do parents begin to get interested in the quality of their child's or teenagers
educational standards?
The Internet, newspapers, watching the news, getting to know the school system
your kids are attending, asking questions, becoming actively involved within the community.
It's all good. But there is something else that is extremely important.
No matter what your educational level is yourself as a parent - your best bet would be to become as healthy - both mentally
and physically yourself - to be a consistent role model for your kids as soon as possible.
These videos were found at YouTube.com. It's time to leave your preconceived notions at the door and reach
out to find out what you need to know - using every resource possible.
It's time that parents become active listeners and learn how to be the parents their kids
need. It's time for us all to learn as much as we can about what researchers are finding out about our physical and mental
needs. It's time to stop using excuses and to become the parents our kids want us to be.
How Much Do We Really Know
About the Brain?
FRONTLINE
asked 4 prominent psychologists and neuroscientists to answer some questions about the extent of our knowledge of the brain
and its development - connections between the anatomy of the brain and behavior, new directions for research and how close
we are to translating new findings into advice for parents or educators.
What
are we learning about the brain's development as a result of new imaging technologies, such as functional magnetic resonance
imaging?
Fischer:
Functional MRI (fMRI) tells us about the location of major brain activity during a behavior, including not only in the cortex but also structures farther down in the brain.
While fMRI gets the most publicity,
several other new techniques make equally important contributions. The magnetoencephalogram (MEG) and the classical electroencephalogram
(EEG) give the best information about brain activity over time as well as connections
between cortical regions.
The MEG tells us about brain activity in much the same way as the EEG, indicating the activity of neural networks in real time; but it gives more information than the EEG about deeper structures.
Coherence analysis of EEG
or MEG tells which parts of the brain are connected to each other by analyzing similarities
in brain activity patterns. Combining information from these & other sources provides a much more complete portrait of
brain functioning than has ever been possible.
Greenough: The principal news
based upon both newer techniques like fMRI & other technologies is that the brain is a very dynamic place & continues
to be so throughout development & even into adulthood.
New synaptic
connections continue to form between neurons throughout life. Patterns of myelination [the process by which brain cells are covered w/a fatty white substance
called myelin, which aids in the transmission of information between cells],
while perhaps most dynamic from early development thru adolescence, continue to change at least into the 4th decade of life.
And blood vessels, the brain
capillary networks in particular, respond to long-term changes in demand throughout much of adult life. Perhaps most exciting
is that at least some regions of the brain continue to generate new neurons in adulthood
& those neurons appear to participate in the learning & memory process.
Scientists first made these
observations in animals & subsequently confirmed them in humans.
Thompson: These new imaging
techniques provide extremely detailed pictures of the living brain, revealing how it grows & how
its function changes though the teenage years, often in ways no one suspected.
Before brain imaging was invented,
autopsy studies showed that older children had more of a fatty substance, called myelin, on their brain cells.
This speeds
up the electrical transmission of information between brain cells & is thought
to make the brain more efficient as we go thru the teen years. Earlier studies also revealed
an exuberant growth of connections in the first 2 years of life, w/a slow elimination of connections
thereafter.
Now, imaging technologies
let us visualize even more remarkable changes in the brains of children & teens. Using MRI scans, we can watch teenagers' brains change in miraculous patterns as they grow up.
We recently created the first
maps of brain growth in individual children & teens. To our surprise, an extraordinary wave
of tissue growth spread thru the brain, from front to back, between the ages of 3 &
15.
Frontal
brain circuits, which control attention, grew fastest from ages 3 to 6. Language systems, which are further back in the brain, underwent a rapid growth spurt around the age of 11 to 15
& then drastically shut off in the early teen years.
This language system growth
is interesting, as it corresponds to the end of a period when we're thought to be most efficient
at learning foreign languages.
Perhaps the biggest surprise
of all was how much tissue the brain loses in the teen years.
Just before puberty, children
lost up to 50% of their brain tissue in their deep motor nuclei -- these systems control
motor skills such as writing, sports or piano. This loss moves like a wildfire into the frontal
lobes in late teens. We think it's a sign of rapid remodeling of brain tissue well into the teens & beyond.
In short, MRI scans provide
the detail necessary to chart brain growth in individual children & we're seeing new growth
spurts & surprising losses of cells much later than originally thought.
It's as if a light has now
lit up a huge landscape & researchers are only just beginning to see the landmarks & features for the first time.
Siegel: Imaging techniques
have provided a revolutionary new view into how the activation of neural circuits in the
brain give rise to mental processes, such as:
memory
emotion
decision-making
reasoning
The correlation of brain structure
& function w/the more subjective, but equally real, mental processes that define the mind enables us to deepen our understanding
of how systems of neurons within the brain may give rise to how systems
of neurons between brains function.
This "interpersonal
neurobiology" of understanding how the interaction of brain & human relationships shapes who we are is an exciting
possibility in this new era of systems neuroscience.
How much do we know about the relationship between the anatomy or biology of the brain and
behavior?
Fischer:We know much more because we're only now able to examine many dimensions of brain functioning in thriving human beings.
Still, we don't know very much!
Key to our understanding is how the brain functions as a system - i.e., how neural networks
grow and function across brain regions. Most of the recent advances in brain science have involved
knowledge of the biology of single neurons and synapses, not knowledge of patterns of connection
and other aspects of the brain as a system.
In time the new imaging techniques
will help scientists and educators to understand how brain and behavior work together, but we have a very long way to go.
Greenough:One thing that we know is that changes in the synaptic connections between neurons,
whether involving newly-generated neurons in some brain regions
or only pre-existing neurons in others, are a key part of the
memory process.
Thompson:Interestingly, a surprising amount is already known. We know a lot about how the brain is organized anatomically
& functionally. We know which parts are responsible for specific functions, such as spatial memory, emotion, vision &
language.
We know a fair
amount about how brain cells develop, how they speak to each
other, what molecules are involved in learning & memory & how they may be
altered by disease or medication.
In looking at human brain
development, several new techniques are now greatly accelerating our understanding of brain & behavior. Functional MRI,
i.e., is a new type of imaging technique that lets you see how & where, the brain activates in response to learning new
information, recognizing a face rather than just seeing a face, or learning new languages.
These techniques allow you
to find out exactly what changes in the brain when some types of information are learned, or when we perform different tasks
such as speaking, or when we are ill.
Siegel:We're just beginning to identify how systems in the brain work together in an integrated fashion to create complex
mental processes.
The mind, which
can be defined as a process that regulates the flow of energy & information, emanates from the activation
of neuronal circuits.
This flow, however,
occurs not only within the skull, but also between two skulls (as in a "relationship") &
among many skulls (as in a family, or as in the Internet).
For this reason,
it's crucial in understanding the mind & its development that we embrace the exciting findings from brain science while
exploring the reality that brain & mind are not the same.
Since energy and
information can flow beyond the boundaries of the skin-defined self, mind is a process that is
beyond merely brain anatomy & biology.
Behavior &
the mental processes that motivate it, are a product of the interface of the neurophysiological processes of the body &
the interpersonal processes, of relationships, family, community & the larger culture. These ideas are explored in my
book The Developing Mind (Siegel, 1999). Recently, we've started an interdisciplinary
research & education program at UCLA called the Center for Culture, Brain & Development.
What are the most exciting or promising areas of research into brain development & learning
& memory -- particularly pertaining to adolescents?
Siegel: The tremendously exciting findings of significant brain reorganization
during the adolescent years has enabled us to begin to address some very important questions in a new light:
Why do psychiatric illnesses so often emerge for the first time in adolescence?
How & why do changes in brain function & structure correlate w/adolescent cognitive
& behavioral changes?
Are there ways of examining our cultural approach to adolescence in a new light given
the pruning & re-structuring of brain circuits during the teen years?
Regarding learning & memory, the relationships among factual & autobiographical
memory suggest that we may be well served to have students integrate knowledge of the semantic (factual
world) w/self-knowledge (autonoesis) for more lasting & better remembered knowledge
structures.
The hippocampus has long been known as
an important structure for explicit memory. Recent findings indicate that in some traumatized individuals, the hippocampus may become damaged -- possibly by way of excessive stress hormone, cortisol,
secretion.
This finding suggests that the legacy of trauma may then create cognitive impairments making school even more stressful for children who have experienced various forms of abuse or neglect. Awareness of these findings can help clinicians, educators & policymakers to rethink how they approach individuals who have been
victims of trauma.
The prefrontal cortex has an anatomic
location that enables it to integrate a wide array of neural circuits into a functional
whole. This process of integration enables the prefrontal area to play a central role in
complex mental processes that emerge as the child grows. The dorsolateral prefrontal region
is crucial for focal attention & working memory.
The ventromedial prefrontal regions, also
known as the orbitofrontal cortex because it sits behind the orbit of the eyes, is a crucial
area involved in a wide array of processes such as social cognition (understanding the minds of others), attuned communication, self-regulation, response flexibility (taking in
data, pausing, reflecting & coming up w/an adaptive, flexible response) & autobiographical
memory & self-awareness.
The development of the prefrontal region
may be responsive to patterns of social communication during the early years of life &
perhaps across the life span.
Findings from recent studies of the changes in the adolescent brain point to the "off-line" status of this
important integrative region. These findings may help us to gain insights into why teenagers act
the way they so often do.
As one of my patients said after doing an action w/little thought -- "Don't
forget, I'm a teenager right now!" Action w/out reflection may often be a sign that the
prefrontal cortex's response flexibility function is off-duty.
Fischer:Adolescents' brains show major developmental change, which new research is beginning to unravel.
Behavioral scientists have documented in the last 25 years that adolescents undergo massive changes in cognitive & emotional capacities & that these changes continue
at least thru early adulthood, well beyond the teen years.
Brain scientists are now discovering similar changes in the brain. An essential
question is how the major changes in brain connection & organization during adolescence & early adulthood relate to
the established changes in cognitive capacities.
New cognitive capacities emerge at 10, 15, 20 & 25 years, in which young
people become capable of using abstract concepts skillfully & relating
them to each other in successively more complex ways. Younger children can't use abstractions flexibly but instead
reduce them to concrete instances & memorized definitions.
At 9 to 10 years children become able to construct flexible abstract concepts,
such as conformity, responsibility & the operation of multiplication; but when they try to relate two abstractions to
each other, they muddle them together. At about age 15 they can build flexible relations between a pair of abstractions &
thus stop muddling them so badly.
At age 19 or 20 they can build complex relations among multiple abstractions
& at 25 they can connect systems of abstractions to understand principles underlying them. Each of these developments
involves the capacity to build a new kind of understanding, but that capacity is evident
only in areas where young people work to construct their understanding -- the new abilities don't appear in all skills but
only in those where the individual demonstrates optimal performance. A major challenge for neuroscientists is to understand
how these emerging capacities relate to brain changes.
Thompson: My own view is that we now have an exciting array of techniques
that are beginning to tell us, in exquisite detail, how the brain grows & what changes to expect in healthy children &
teens. We're also just beginning to compare these recently discovered brain changes w/changes in autistic children, children
w/learning or communication disorders & teenagers w/emotional or psychiatric disorders.
The imaging techniques have tremendous promise for understanding how these
enigmatic features of development emerge in healthy children & teens. Large-scale studies are now helping us exploit this
technology & build a better picture of how the brain develops.
Sometimes they reveal unsuspected features, such
as the wave of brain tissue loss in the teen years. By studying this remodeling process, we hope to shed light on how
this process might go awry in diseases that can strike in adolescence, such as schizophrenia. (see the glossary)
But I think a second revolution in our understanding will come when we begin
to bridge these brain imaging techniques w/the powerful tools of the "Human Genome Project."
In a recent study, we reported the first maps to visualize how genes affect
brain structure -- in other words, which parts of the brain's hardware do we inherit from our parents & which parts can
change most in response to learning experiences & stimulation? A key focus is studying families of genes that are implicated
in building our brains & learning experiences that restructure them.
As you read this, your brain is remodeling itself, but we know extremely
little about what precisely is causing the changes. By developing new techniques to bridge imaging & genetics, a second
revolution in our understanding will come.
Only then we'll go from observing brain changes in detail to understanding
their causes. This in turn is likely to shed light on how developmental disorders might respond to new therapies & what's
happening in the healthy teenage brain.
Greenough: The results of neuroscience
research cannot be translated into policy by itself. We have many sources of information regarding brain and behavioral development
and learning. The best context for policy development is a team of individuals that collectively has expertise in child and
adolescent development (especially developmental psychology), education, medicine (e.g., child psychiatry) and neuroscience.
Working together to interpret the research and formulate policies that reflect the fullest possible knowledge of the development
process, reasoned and valid policies can be proposed. A volume that comprises such an interdisciplinary report is "From Neurons to Neighborhoods: The Science of Early Childhood
Development" published by the National Academy of Sciences. The potential benefits
of policies that benefit or optimize human development are enormous, ranging from the economic effects of having a vastly
more effective workforce to the societal and medical effects of a population that is as a whole better adapted to the demands
of the 21st century lifestyle.
One Reason Teens Respond Differently to the World: Immature
Brain Circuitry
by Sarah Sparks
We used to think that teens respond differently to the world because of
hormones, or attitude or because they simply need independence. But when adolescents' brains are studied thru magnetic resonance imaging (MRI), we see that they actually work
differently than adult brains.
At the McLean Hospital in
Belmont, Mass., Deborah Yurgelun-Todd and a group of researchers have studied how adolescents perceive emotion as compared
to adults. The scientists looked at the brains of 18 children between the ages of 10 and 18 and compared them to 16 adults
using functional magnetic resonance imaging (fMRI).
Both groups were shown pictures
of adult faces and asked to identify the emotion on the faces. Using fMRI, the researchers could trace what part of the brain responded as subjects were asked to identify
the expression depicted in the picture.
The results surprised the
researchers. The adults correctly identified the expression as fear. Yet the teens answered "shocked, surprised, angry." And the teens and adults used different parts of their brains to process what they were feeling. The teens mostly used the amygdala, a small almond shaped region that guides instinctual or "gut"
reactions, while the adults relied on the frontal cortex, which governs reason and planning.
As the teens got older, the
center of activity shifted more toward the frontal cortex and away from the cruder response of
the amygdala.
Yurgelun-Todd, director of
neuropsychology and cognitive neuroimaging at McLean Hospital believes the study goes partway to understanding why the teenage years seem so emotionally turbulent.
The teens seemed not only
to be misreading the feelings on the adult's face, but they reacted strongly from an area deep inside the brain. The frontal cortex
helped the adults distinguish fear from shock or surprise.
Often called the executive
or CEO of the brain, the frontal cortex gives adults the ability to distinguish a subtlety of expression:
"Was this really fear or was it surprise or shock?"
For the teens,
this area wasn't fully operating.
Reactions, rather than rationalthought, come more from the amygdala, deep in the brain, than the frontal cortex,
which led Yurgelun-Todd and other neuroscientists to suggest that an immature brain leads to impulsivity, or what researchers
dub "risk-taking behavior."
Although it was known from
animal studies and brain-injured people that the frontal cortex matures more slowly than other brain structures, it's only
been with the advent of functional MRI that researchers have been able to study brain activity in normal children.
The brain scans used in these
studies are a valuable tool for researchers. Never before have scientists been able to develop data banks of normal, healthy
children. Outlining the changes in normal function and development will help researchers determine the causes of psychiatric disorders
that afflict children and adolescents.
The speaker in the video above describes how people with normal mature brain functioning can
read facial expressions to judge the emotion being experienced by a person. The speaker does mention how a person with autism
wouldn't be able to read the facial expressions to judge emotion because the section of the brain being used to do this is
"damaged."
With teenagers, this article is telling us that teenager's brains just haven't developed
completely and their wiring is still immature so that they may not be physically able to judge emotions from facial expressions.
This would say to us, as parents and adults that we need to RETHINK why our kids might not
know when we are angry by our facial expression or when we are experiencing any other emotion. Their ability to be emotionally
intelligent isn't developed well enough yet.
This speaks to us to that we need to be teaching our kids as teenagers more about emotional
intelligence!
"CDC Report Shows Largest 1-Year
Increase in Youth Suicide Rate in 15 Years" reads the headline of a recent press release from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.
The CDC notice points
out that, after a decline of 28% over 13 years, the suicide rate for 10- to 24-year-olds increased by 8% from 2003 to 2004.
Is this increase in suicides among young people perhaps due to the FDA's warnings to physicians and parents about a possible connection between SSRI's and suicide in young people?
I've written before about
the 2004 decision by the FDA to extend its child and adolescent black-box warning to include young adults up to age 24. This new warning was in response to the concern that suicidal thinking and self-harm may increase among those young people taking antidepressants.
The issue is complicated,
however, by the fact that antidepressants are prescribed for people who are already more vulnerable to suicidal thinking due to their psychiatric symptoms.
Understandably, many health
care professionals worry that the FDA-mandated, black-box warning could inhibit doctors from prescribing antidepressants for young people with depression. Less treatment with SSRI's could then mean more depression and actual suicides.
Several reports suggest that this is exactly what
might be happening.
In one study, researchers
investigated the decrease in prescriptions for SSRI antidepressants for young people in the U.S. and The Netherlands. From 2003 to 2005, there was a 22% decrease in SSRI prescriptions in both
countries. The youth suicide rates during this same period rose 14% in the U.S. & 49% in the Netherlands.
It's hard to blame the FDA warning directly. There are many influences on mood and behavior. The use of antidepressants, however, is definitely much lower now in children and adolescents following the agency's warning. So it's possible that the black-box warning may be having the wrong effect
in some young people's lives - instead of greater safety, there may now be greater risk.
What's important here is to
identify young people who are experiencing depression and suicidal thinking and to make sure that they are effectively treated - including with the appropriate use of antidepressants.
The warning on the box states
"to watch closely for increased suicidal thinking." That's fine, as long as it doesn't lead to a decrease in or total lack of appropriate treatment.
Teen Drivers Are Risky With Other Teens
as Passengers: Study
Healthscout News
Teenage drivers tend to take
more risks behind the wheel when other teens - notably boys - are in the passenger seat, U.S. government researchers have
found.
The riskiest driving occurred
among drivers of either sex when a teen male was a passenger, according to researchers from the National Institute of Child
Health and Human Development.
Ironically,
teen boy drivers actually became somewhat safer when a female companion was in the passenger seat, The New York Times reported of the study published in the journal
Accident Analysis and Prevention.
Of 471 teenage drivers tracked,
14.9% of boys & 13.1% of girls practiced dangerous habits including speeding & tailgating, the scientists said.
Lead researcher Bruce Simons-Morton
speculated that drivers felt they had to show off with boy passengers in the car, although he said the issue would have to
be confirmed in future studies.
another reason to think twice on something we need, as parents, to know about if we didn't already
Health Tip:
The Impact of Divorce on Your Children
Don't involve
them in parental disputes
(HealthDayNews) - Divorce
can wreak havoc in children's lives & while there is no step-by-step manual for steering your kids thru this traumatic
time, there are some common sense guidelines that may make adjustments easier.
If you're going thru a divorce,
The Nemours Foundation suggests you:
(HealthDayNews)
- The temptation to start smoking cigarettes can be strongest during adolescence. So if you have pre-teens at home, now's
the time to steer them away from lighting up.
Here are some suggestions from St. Louis Children's Hospital:
Be a role model by not smoking.
If you do smoke, discuss your struggle to quit with your kids.
Make sure your kids know where you stand on smoking & give
reasons for your opinions.
(be sure to visit teenscene, to read more about peer pressure!)
Mental health problemsare real,
painful & can be severe. They can lead to school failure, loss of friends or family conflict. Some of the signs that may point to a possible problem are listed below. If you are a Parent or other caregiver of a teenager,
pay attention to the symptoms listed below:
Do you recognize any of these
"Symptoms" of Mental Illness in your pre-teen or teenager?
Marked changes in sleeping & / or eating habits.
Many physical complaints
Depression shown by sustained, prolonged negative mood & attitude, often accompanied by poor appetite, difficulty sleeping or thoughts
of death.
If any of these
problems persist over an extended period of time & especially if others who are associated w/your teen are concerned;
a mental health evaluation after a complete physical examination is warranted.
40% to 60% of adolescents & young adults
in drug or alcohol treatment also need attention for psychiatric problems.
Adolescents w/serious emotional problems
are approximately 4 times more likely to use & be dependent on illicit drugs than those
w/out serious emotional problems.
School Refusal in Children & Adolescents
WANDA P. FREMONT, M.D., State University of New York Upstate Medical University, Syracuse, New York
School refusal is a problem that's stressful for children, families & school personnel. Failing to attend school has significant short & long term effects on
children's social, emotional & educational development.
School refusal often is associated w/comorbid psychiatric disorders such as anxiety & depression. It's important to identify problems early & provide appropriate interventions to prevent further difficulties.
Assessment &
management of school refusal require a collaborative approach that includes the family physician,
school staff, parents & a mental health professional.
School refusal is a serious emotional problem that's associated w/significant short
& long term sequelae. Fear of going to school was first termed school phobia in 1941.1
An alternative term, school refusal, was used in Great Britain to define similar problems in children who didn't attend
school because of emotional distress.2
Children w/school refusal differ in important ways from children who are truant (Table 1),
although the behaviors aren't mutually exclusive.
Table 1
Criteria for Differential Diagnosis of School Refusal & Truancy
Child often attempts to conceal absence from parents.
Frequent antisocial behavior, including delinquent & disruptive acts (e.g., lying, stealing), often in the company of antisocial peers.
During school hours, child frequently doesn't stay home.
Lack of interest in schoolwork & unwillingness to conform to academic & behavior expectations.
Approximately 1 to 5% of all
school-aged children have school refusal.3 The rate
is similar between boys & girls.4,5 Although school refusal
occurs at all ages, it's more common in children 5, 6, 10 & 11 years of age.6 No
socioeconomic differences have been noted.7
The onset of school refusal symptoms usually is gradual. Symptoms may begin after a holiday
or illness. Some children have trouble going back to school after weekends or vacations. Stressful events at home or school or w/peers may cause school refusal.
Some children leave home in
the morning & develop difficulties as they get closer to school, then are unable to proceed. Other children refuse to
make any effort to go to school.
Presenting symptoms
include fearfulness, panic symptoms, crying episodes, temper tantrums, threats of self-harm & somatic symptoms8 that present in the morning & improve if the child is allowed to stay home (Table
2). The longer the child stays out of school, the more difficult it is to return.9
Depression & conduct disorder, which includes a number of chronic disruptive behaviors such as:
Even stress & relatively benign psychological &/or emotional disturbances can encouragesubstance abuse, especially if parents model substance use as a coping method. (i.e. consuming alcohol after a hard day at work - again parents - look to
your own behaviors & what you are modeling for your children)
The Importance
of Early Diagnosis & Treatment
Treating
children & adolescents w/mental illness is an important step in keeping them away from illicit drugs, alcohol & the possible negative outcomes that stem from co-occurring disorders.
i.e., a recent
study found that treating ADHD children w/appropriate medication was associated w/an 85% reduction
in risk for substance use disorders.
Unfortunately, most children w/mental illnesses don't receive help until
it's too late.
Many get into serious legal trouble & are ordered by the court to seek help,while
others develop a drug addiction & are referred to substance abuse treatment where they may or may not encounter a mental health professional.
However, unless they're forced to seek treatment, many teens & their families
will not recognize, or will actively deny, that they're ill. The stigma surrounding mental health disorders prevails, potentially causing social isolation for both child & family.
The problem can be especially dramatic among adolescents,
who typically struggle for acceptance through a certain degree of conformity. Thus, they often
fear that admitting they have a mental disorder will risk their chance for peer acceptance & cause them embarrassment or even ridicule.
Certain experiences, thoughts & feelings signal the presence of a variety of mental health problems or the need for help. The following signs are important to recognize:
It's not necessarily
easy to spot these signs, or to figure out what they mean. Qualified mental health professionals are skilled in making an accurate diagnosis.
As a general rule: the longer the signs
last, the more serious they are & the more they interfere w/daily life, the greater the chance that professional treatment
is needed.
AD/HD (commonly known as ADD) is a behavioral disorder. Basically, kids who
have it are unable to concentrate, extremely restless, or both. The American Psychiatric Association calls the distinct ypes "inattentive"
& "hyperactive - impulsivity."
Some adolescents w/attention deficit disorder can't organize or complete tasks, get distracted easily
& seem not to listen. Others may be rebellious & reckless -- they can't wait their turn, keep quiet or keep their friends. Still others have both kinds of problems.
Don't be alarmed if those
behaviors seem familiar: As your child enters his teens, he probably talks back, argues w/his best buddy, loses his keys,
or fails to finish his homework from time to time - almost every kid does.
A child with AD/HD will do
these things more often (though, unless he has a severe case, you wouldn't be able to pick him
out from a group of kids watching TV). This can give him a real disability in school, at home, or in social settings.
AD/HD is controversial for
2 reasons: Researchers aren't sure precisely what causes it & physicians, other medical experts & parents all tend to have strong opinions on using drugs to treat it.
Dealing w/the issues of adolescence can be trying for all concerned. Families are generally successful at helping their children accomplish
the developmental goals of the teen years, reducing dependence on parents, while becoming increasingly responsible & independent.
There are
a number of warning signs that things aren't going well.
When the warning signs show up, the family may want to seek outside help. It should never
enter a parents' mind that the stigma that surrounds mental illness should keep them from supporting their teenager & reaching out for help. Parents should also be aware that their attitude towards the situation, will have a great bearing on how the teen submits to the help process they may need.
Just a quick note concerning my own personal thoughts: I believe with
everything in me that the kids who are practicing self destructive behaviors have issues that need to be addressed. No kidding
- right? Do you know what your kids' issues are?
If your teen is practicing self destructive behaviors - these behaviors
may take years to dissolve - if they ever dissolve at all. They carry these behaviors into their young adult years and experience
even more problems. Some carry these self destructive tendencies throughout their entire lives.
Figure out now what's going on. It may be uncomfortable for you as a parent - but addressing
the problems is the answer to the problem instead of ignoring it.
These self-destructive and often mutilating behaviors occur frequently in adolescents. It was reported in one study that the incidence of self-mutilation occurred at an estimated 1,800 out of 100,000 adolescents and young adults between the ages of 15 and 35.
A common example of self-mutilating behavior is cutting the skin with a knife or razor until pain is felt and/or blood has been drawn.
Other examples are burning the skin with metal or a lighted cigarette or picking the skin. These problematic behaviors
are to be distinguished from tattooing or body piercing behaviors that aren't typical of self-mutilation.
Those individuals seeking
body adornment differ, psychologically speaking, from individuals practicing self-abuse as an attempt to escape from intense emotion or to achieve some level of focus.
Cutting seems to appear more often in females than in males. Cutting also often co-exists with other problems such as eating disorders. Self-injurers aren't usually planning suicide. However, tragedies, including serious medical complications or death, can and do occur.
Copyright 2003 The Cox News Service. All rights reserved.
a note to parents:When I was a teenager I was
miserable because I didn't think my parents loved or cared about me. They had their own problems, we had no communication
and our family was falling apart, but they didn't acknowledge any problems.
I wanted to commit suicide. I was depressed. I had tried drinking, drugs and I had even gotten
pregnant at 16 - in which case my mother forced me to have an abortion.
I was afraid to commit suicide though. So one day I began to run a knifeover my skin on my arm and my wrists, trying to cut them, wanting to cut them - wanting my parents
to say to me - "We love you! Why would you want to die?"
Please - if you're not communicating your love to your children and teenagers on a regular
basis; if you're not affectionate and caring towards them - consider that you must make the change and the effort to change.
Discuss your problems with communicating how you feel to them.
Cutting is a serious problem. I did it and it would have gotten worse should I have found
the release in the cutting that some kids do. I have had self injurious behaviors in my adult years - unconsciously - and
it caused me problems until I realized what I was doing.
Teenagers are very insecure. Be the adult you need to be and let your kids know your problems
with communicating love and affection if it is a problem for you.
Many adolescents
with anxiety, depression or other mental health problems come from families that don't eat meals together or participate in similar family rituals
as often as the families of adolescents without such psychological problems.
Union
rituals, such as sharing meals, serve to transmit belief systems and norms of behavior. The lack of such practices can adversely affect a person's maturation and the resolution of the crisis
of adolescence may be impeded.
Getting together
as a family at lunch or dinnertime is a Spanish custom. In general, the study group ate fewer meals with their parents than
their peers in the comparison group, the investigators report. Further, a higher percentage of people in the study group believed that they lived in a dysfunctional family.
i.e., the youth
in the study group reported eating fewer than 5 meals per week with both parents out of a possible 14 meals, while their peers
ate about 6 meals with their parents each week.
Sharing daily meals
with the family constitutes a union ritual that promotes adolescent mental health.
Celebrating special
events with the extended family is another union ritual, they note, which was also more common
among those in the comparison group.
Over 1/2 of those
in the study group perceived some level of dysfunction in their families and nearly 1 in 5 believed that the dysfunction was severe. In comparison, only about 1/4 of the comparison group believed that their family was dysfunctional and less than 10% thought it was severely dysfunctional.
Those who had sought
mental health care were less likely to report participating in New Year's Day, Easter and other family celebrations than their
peers. They also reported traveling, attending parties and participating in other family activities less frequently than youth
in the comparison group.
The decrease in
family activities that improve adolescent-family communication and emotional closeness, is related to a more frequent use of mental health services.
An editorial expands
on the fact that the Americanization of European family life is undermining very important social mechanisms for producing
resilience in the next generation.
Television dinners
and fast food, in comparison to "historic cultural traditions of 'slow food' are a large part of the problem. If families don't regularly touch base, is it surprising that parents don't know when their children
are getting into difficulties?
Journal of Epidemiology & Community Health January
2002;56:89-94
special note to parents: I think you'd be as surprised as I was, but you'd also
agree with the fact that teens don't connect to what we're saying to them sometimes. We say something to them and they hear
an entirely different statement. If you click here you can jump over to the teenscene page about communication and read for yourself what I'm referring to!
Young Girls, Older Boyfriends & SexHaving an Older Boyfriend -- or a Serious Boyfriend at
a Young Age -- May Raise a Girl's Risk of Early Sex
maybe you're looking for.....
Getting into adolescent heads: An essential update For teenagers, a psychosocial review of systems is at least as important as the physical exam.
The popular & effective HEADSS method of interviewing has been expanded to HEEADSSS, focusing on assessment of the Home
environment, Education & employment, Eating, peer-related Activities, Drugs, Sexuality,
Suicide/depression & Safety from injury & violence.
Helping academic underachievers become achievers in their own rightThe frequency of poor school performance among children underscores the importance
of identifying & addressing academic difficulty early. That's a job pediatricians can take on during the normal course
of care.
Article includes: Interviews
with the child & parents, Ways to address the
problem, Continuing care after the diagnosis, Prevention & health promotion: Prospective pediatrics
Lying,
Ages 12 to 16 Anne
Krueger CONSUMER HEALTH INTERACTIVE
Parents usually manage to
remain calm during the years when children's lying takes the form of fantastical stories or denials of having raided the cookie jar. But an older child who skimps on the truth sets off parents' alarm bells & rightly so. Lying takes on much greater significance
as children enter adolescence because the child is doing it consciously, w/full knowledge of the consequences.
These consequences have more
potential to be serious when lies are about:
homework
curfews
driving
drugs
smoking
drinking
sex
Try not to panic or lose your
temper when you uncover an untruth or obfuscation, instead, take it as a signal to talk to your child about what's going on
in his life. Here are answers to the most common questions parents ask about lying.
Why
does my teen lie to me?
A lie doesn't always mean
your teen is up to something dangerous. Here are some common reasons adolescents fib:
To protect their privacy. As teens enter & endure puberty, they need to feel that they're psychologically separate & independent from their parents. Your child might lie about what he did last night even if it was harmless,
simply because he doesn't think you need to know every detail of his life.
To make them feel grown up.
With some justification, many teens feel that adults expect them to act grown up yet treat them like babies. Fibbing about the day's events may give your teen a sense of control or power. Keeping something from you is one way your teen can establish his independence & individuality.
To spare someone's feelings. When a girl tells a boy in whom she's not interested that she has too much homework to go out tonight, she doesn't
think she's lying. She thinks she's being tactful. (Guess who taught her this?)
To avoid doing something. "Yes, I did my homework." A child who frequently lies about schoolwork may
be having trouble w/his workload & may need a tutor or some help getting organized.
If your child claimed he walked the dog or returned your library
book when he didn't, this may likewise be a sign that he is overwhelmed by too many responsibilities or needs help w/time management.
To avoid getting in trouble. This, as you might have guessed, is the numero uno reason that kids
lie , but it has a positive side:
It shows your teen knows right from
wrong. He's lying because he knows what he did (or plans to do) is unacceptable. So he says, "Yes, Todd's parents will be home during the party." "No, I'm not going w/Luke on his motorcycle." "No, I'd
never try smoking." "No, I didn't get ink on your sweater."
parents: reading about brain development in the left column - consider this possibility....
What does your work tell you about young teenagers?
One of the implications of
this work is that the brain is responding differently to the outside world in teenagers compared
to adults. And in particular, w/emotional information, the teenager's brain may be
responding w/more of a gut reaction than an executive or more thinking kind of response.
And if that's the case, then one of the things that you expect is that you'll have more of an impulsive behavioral response, instead of a necessarily thoughtful or measured kind of response.
could this be tied into our conversations with our teens? are
they simply miscommunicating because of a natural tendency to act more impulsively than adults? could we be interpreting what we've considered to be a lie - actually this miscommunication? if so -
how is this making our teens feel?
How should I respond when my teen lies?
Because the behavior your
teen is hiding could have serious consequences, you can't let the stories slide. But he's
unlikely to respond well to the parenting tactics that worked when he was younger. Instead of just doling out punishments
after the fact, most experts agree that your focus should be on opening up communication & developing mutual trust.
You can start by giving your adolescent a decent amount of privacy so he won't feel he has to lie to get you off his back.
Show your interest in his activities & friends, but don't butt in.
Instead of clinging to the rules that worked when he was younger,
invite him to help you determine reasonable limits & consequences.
Make sure your teen understands where you draw the lines & what will happen
if he steps over them.
When you catch your teen in
a lie, don't take it personally or give in to anger. Chewing him out won't make him eager to confide in you the next time. Dole out your disapproval & any penalty, perhaps the temporary removal of a privilege
like watching TV, in a reasonable manner.
If your response is excessive, your child may dig
in his heels & really rebel.
It may be reasonable to ground
your adolescent for a night, but if you pen him in too long, he'll forget about his transgression
in the light of what he sees as cruel & unusual treatment.
Are your rules too strict
for a high school student?
Are they in line w/those
of other families w/similar values & concerns?
If the lie was a cover-up for risky behavior, you need to once again discuss the rules; emphasize that their purpose is to protect him, not to cramp his style. And remind him of the consequences of breaking the
house rules.
Last but not least, praise your teen when he tells you the truth even though he knows it
might upset you. The truth, although painful, is always better than a lie & should be treated that way.
In other words, when your
teen is this age, you shouldn't punish a wrongdoing to which he admits in the same way you would a wrongdoing that he denies
or misrepresents.
Of course a serious offense,
even if your child fessed up, should have some consequence attached to it, but give him kudos for
coming forward & maybe he'll do it more often.
When should I be worried
about my child's lying?
A few isolated fibs & half-truths usually don't signal a serious problem, but if your child's lying is combined
with a history of other offenses, such as aggressive behavior, stealing or cutting class, or if he continues to lie regularly even after you've spoken
w/him about it, you may want to seek professional help.
In addition, according to
the American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry, your child may have an emotional problem
that needs addressing if he consistently lies in certain ways. Consult a mental health professional if your child has one of the following problems:
Weaving
elaborate & convincing stories. Young children tell tall tales before they know the difference
between reality & fantasy; it's a normal phase in their development. But when an older
child exaggerates or embellishes nearly everything, it signals a need for attention that is cause for concern.
Chronic
lying. If your child lies repeatedly, it may just be a
bad habit that he needs help in breaking, or it may be a sign that he can't tell right from wrong. A therapist
can work with him on developing a conscience as well as help him with any family or socialization
problems that might be hampering his emotional development.
Lying
to cover up a serious problem. An adolescent who's drinking or using drugs is apt to lie repeatedly to hide the truth. The best course is to address the emotional problems at the root of his reckless behavior.
Lying
without guilt. In very rare cases, children neither think twice nor feel sorry about lying or taking advantage of others. You're right to worry if
your child seems to have no scruples about deceiving people.
parents: more info from the same excerpted article above:
Talk more about that in terms of the kind of risks that teenagers
take. When they exhibit risky behavior, what is actually happening?
One thing that happens in the brain when we're going to get
involved in any activity or initiate any activity is, we either have to decide what the consequences of
that behavior are, or we're just going to behave impulsively.
And to appreciate what the consequences of a behavior are, you have to really think through what the potential outcomes of a behavior are. I think the frontal lobe,
that part of the executive region that we studied, isn't always functioning fully in teenagers;
or least our data suggests that perhaps it's not.
That would suggest that therefore teenagers
aren't thinking through what the consequences of their behaviors are, which would lead us to believe that they'd be
more impulsive, because they're not going to be so worried about whether or not what they're doing
has a negative consequence. ...
Our findings suggest that what is coming into the brain, how
it's being organized & then ultimately the response -- all three of those may be different in our adolescents. So that
attitude may be part of that, or may be related to that. But it's not simply a matter of teenagers
feeling like they don't want to do something, or that they're just going to give you a hard time. ...
What does this mean for teens' relationship with their parents
& teachers?
One of the interesting things about the findings are that they
suggest that the teenagers aren't able to correctly read all the feelings in the adult face.
So that would suggest to us that when they're relating to their parents or to their friends' parents or to their teachers,
they may be misperceiving or misunderstanding some of the feelings that we have as adults;
that is,
they see anger when
there isn't anger, or sadness when there isn't sadness.
And if that's the case, then clearly their own behavior isn't
going to match that of the adult. So you'll see miscommunication, both
in terms of what they think the adult is feeling, but also what the response should then be to that.
Where can I get help?
If you're
worried about your child's lying or about your relationship w/him, there are several places to turn. Your first step
could be to call both your child's doctor & the guidance
counselor at his school. It may be helpful for you & your child to visit the guidance counselor & the doctor
separately & then together.
Either of these professionals
can also put you in touch w/specialists, support networks & mental health facilities.
Therapists are also listed in the yellow pages of your phone book under Marriage,
Family & Child Counselors, Psychologists or Mental Health Services.
Or look in the government pages under Mental Health Dept. (state
or municipal), Health Services Dept. or Human Services.
The Role of the Peer Group by Dorothy L. Espelage, PhD
A recent study in the Journal
of the American Medical Association demonstrated the seriousness of bullying in American
schools. In a nationally representative sample of over 15,686 students in the US (grades 6 - 10):
29.9% self-reported frequent involvement in bullying at school
w/13% participating as a bully
10.9% as a victim
6% as both (Nansel et al., 2001)
Aggression & violence during childhood & adolescence have been the focus of much research over the past several decades (e.g., Loeber & Hay, 1997; Olweus, 1979). These researchers have found that serious forms of
aggression remain relatively stable from childhood thru adulthood; however, Loeber & Hay (1997)
argue that mild forms of aggression may not begin for some children until early or late adolescence.
Despite Loeber & Hay's
findings, very little research has been conducted on mild forms of aggression, such as bullying, during the middle years.
One notable gap in the evolving
literature on bullying & victimization during early adolescence is the role that peers play in promoting bullying & victimization by either reinforcing the aggressor, failing to intervene to stop the victimization, or affiliating w/students who bully.
This Digest looks at the limited
research available on the role of the peer group in bullying to learn more about how bullying & victimization might emerge or continue during early adolescence.
could our children be emulating behavior
that they have seen in their parents?
Definitions
of Bullying
While definitions of bullying often differ semantically, many of them have one concept in common: Bullying is a subtype of aggression (Dodge, 1991; Olweus, 1993; Smith & Thompson, 1991).
The following definitions
are common in the literature: "A person is being bullied when he or she is exposed, repeatedly over time, to negative actions on the part of one or more other students" (Olweus, 1993, p. 9).
"A student is being bullied
or picked on when another student says nasty &
unpleasant things to him or her.
It's also bullying when a student is hit, kicked, threatened, locked inside
a room, sent nasty notes, & when no one ever talks to him" (Smith
& Sharp, 1994, p. 1).
Parents: On these two above subjects
- you must consider these possibilities...
Talking to Your Kids about
Violence
Raising a child is one of
the most gratifying jobs you'll ever have & one of the toughest. Try as you might to be the best parent you can, our complex
world challenges you every day w/disturbing issues that are difficult for children to understand & for parents to explain.
But
explain we must, or we miss a critical opportunity. Research shows that children, especially those between the ages
of 8 & 12, want their parents to talk w/them about today's toughest issues, including
violence.
Even when they reach adolescence,
they want to have a caring adult in their lives to talk about these issues. In fact, those
who have early conversations are more likely to continue turning to their parents as they become teens.
Violence in today's world
in the media, in our neighborhoods & even in our schools can make our children feel frightened, unsafe & insecure.
Kids are hearing about & often must cope w/tough issues such as violence at increasingly earlier ages, often before they're
ready to understand all the aspects of complicated situations.
Yet,
there is hope. Parents & other caring adults have a unique opportunity to talk w/their children about these issues
first, before everyone else does.
Even in such complex times,
parents have the ability to raise healthy, confident, secure children who know how to resolve conflicts peacefully & make
smart decisions to protect themselves.
Parents should talk w/their
children to help them learn correct information & to impart the values they want to instill. Parents should also be a
consistent, reliable, knowledgeable source of information. Here are some tips on getting started.
Provide straightforward
answers; otherwise, your child may make up her own explanations that can be more frightening than any honest response you could offer.
If you don't know the
answer, admit it - then find the correct information & explore it together. Use everyday opportunities to talk
as occasions for discussion.
Some of the best talks you'll have w/your child
will take place when you least expect them. And remember that it often takes more than a single talk for children to grasp
all they need to know. So talk, talk & talk again.
Encourage them to talk it out. Children feel better when they talk about their
feelings. It lifts the burden of having to face their fears alone & offers an emotional release.
If
you sense that a violent event (whether real or fictional) has upset your youngster, you
might say something like, "That TV program we saw seemed pretty scary to me. What did you think about it?" & see where
the conversation leads.
Monitor the Media Over the years, many experts have concluded that viewing a lot of violence in the media can be risky for children. Studies have shown that watching too much violence-whether on TV, in
the movies or in video games-can increase the chance that children will be desensitized to violence,
or even act more aggressively themselves.
Pay
special attention to the kinds of media your children play w/or watch. Parental advisories for music, movies, TV, video
& computer games can help you choose age - appropriate media for your children.
Try watching TV
or playing video games w/your children & talk w/them about the things you see together. Encourage
your children to think about what they're watching, listening to or playing - how would they handle situations differently?
Let them know
why violent movies or games disturb you. i.e., you might tell your 9 year-old, "Violence just isn't funny
to me. In real life people who get shot have families & children & it's sad when something bad happens to them."
Watching the news
& other media w/your child enables you to discuss current events like war & other conflicts & can provide an opportunity
to reinforce the consequences of violence.
Parents & other caring adults can help tone down the effects of these violent messages. Here's how:
Actively supervise your child's exposure to all
forms of media violence.
Limit TV viewing to those programs you feel are
appropriate.
Be selective about which movies your child sees
& which video & computer game he plays.
Establish rules about the Internet by going on-line
together to choose sites that are appropriate & fun for your child.
Consider using monitoring tools for TV & the
Internet, like the v-chip, a new technology that allows parents to block TV programs they consider inappropriate.
Take advantage of the ratings system that provides
parents w/information about the content of a TV program or movie.
Children who experience or witness violence, as well as those who have only seen violent acts on TV or in the movies, often
become anxious & fearful.
That's why it's important to reassure a child that their personal world can remain safe. Try saying something like this to your 7 or 8 year-old: "I know that you're afraid. I will do
my very best to make sure you are safe."
The recent school tragedies in Colorado & in Georgia have shown that violence can not only frighten children but can
make them feel guilty for not preventing it. By providing consistent support & an accepting environment, you can help reduce children's anxieties & fears.
Take a stand Parents
need to be clear & consistent about the values they want to instill. Don't cave in to your children's assertion that "everybody else does it (or has seen it)"
when it comes to allowing them to play what you view as an excessively violent game or to watch an inappropriate movie.
You have a right & responsibility to say, "I don't like the message that game sends. I know that you play that game at your friend's house, but I don't want
it played in our house."
Control your own behavior When
it comes to learning how to behave, children often follow their parents' lead, which is
why it's important to examine how you approach conflict. Do you use violence to settle arguments? When you're angry, do you yell or use physical force? If you want your
child to avoid violence, model the right behavior for her.
Set limits regarding children's actions towards others Let your child know that teasing can become
bullying & roughhousing can get out of control.
If you see your child
strike another, impose a "time out" in order for him to calm down, then ask him to explain why he hit the child. Tell
him firmly that hitting isn't allowed & help him figure out a peaceful way to settle the problem.
Hold family meetings Regularly
scheduled family meetings can provide children & us w/an acceptable place to talk about complaints & share opinions. Just be sure that everyone gets a chance to speak.
Convey strict rules about
weapons Teach your child that real guns & knives are very dangerous & that they can hurt & kill
people. You might say, "I know in the cartoons you watch & the video & computer games you play, the characters are
always shooting each other. They never get hurt; they just pop up again later like nothing ever happened. But in real life,
someone who gets shot will be seriously hurt; sometimes they even die."
If you believe your child might be exposed or attracted
to a gang, talk about it together. Look for an opportunity - say you see an ad for a movie that makes gang life seem glamorous
-& say, "You know, sometimes it seems like joining a gang might be cool. But it's not. Kids in gangs
get hurt. Some even get killed because they try to solve their problems thru violence. Really smart kids choose friends who
are fun to be with & won't put them in any danger." Many communities have programs that help prevent gang violence.
Talk w/other parents Help
give your kids a consistent anti-violence message by speaking w/the parents of your kids' friends about what your children
can & can't view or play in your homes.
Ask other parents if
there's a gun in their home. If there is, talk w/them to make sure they've taken the necessary safety measures. Having
this kind of conversation may seem uncomfortable, but keep in mind that nearly 40% of accidental
handgun shootings of children under 16 occur in the homes of friends & relatives.
Pay particular attention
to boys Most boys love action. But action need not become violence. Parents must distinguish between the two
& help their boys do so as well.
Allow them safe & healthy outlets for their
natural energy. And recognize that talking - especially about violence - is different for boys than for girls.
Boys may feel ashamed to express their real feelings about violence. Instead of sitting down for a " talk," initiate the topic while the two of you are engaged in an activity
he enjoys.
Provide privacy for these conversations. And be
ready to listen when he's ready to talk, even if the timing isn't ideal. (Pollack, Real Boys, 1998.)
Ask the schools to get involved Find
out about your school's violence prevention efforts. Encourage the teaching of conflict-resolution skills & "peer mediation"
programs (where children counsel other children). Suggest training teachers in de-escalating
& preventing violence.
Get additional support &
information We hope you have found this information helpful. If you still want more information, contact any
of these organizations listed or go to the library or bookstore & check out these books for parents. There are lots of
people you can talk w/like doctors, teachers, members of the clergy or other parents.
What's More Violent, TV Sports or Their Ads? Parents Should Monitor Ads Seen by Their Kids, Say Researchers
by Miranda Hitti
on Monday, December 06, 2004 WebMD Medical
News
Dec. 6, 2004 -- With all the
violence on TV these days, parents might think their kids are safer watching sports broadcasts. But they may be overlooking
ads shown during those games.
New research shows violence
was shown in 6% of commercials aired during the most-watched TV sporting events in a 12-month period beginning September 2001.
Unsafe behavior was depicted in 14% of those ads.
Of the 322 commercial breaks,
nearly half had at least one commercial showing unsafe behavior or violence.
That's enough to get a thumbs-down
review from Robert Tamburro, MD, of St. Jude Children's Research Hospital in Memphis, Tenn. Tamburro & colleagues reviewed
more than 1,100 commercials for their study, which appears in the December issue of Pediatrics.
The ads aired during the 50
highest-rated sporting events for that year. Keeping kids' bedtimes in mind, the researchers focused on games or ads shown before 9 p.m.
Coverage included the Winter
Olympics, National Football League games, Major League Baseball World Series & playoff games, the Super Bowl & the
NCAA Basketball Championship game. NASCAR's Daytona 500 race & the final round of the Masters Golf Championship were also
included.
The Super Bowl had the highest
proportion of commercials showing violent or unsafe behavior. The tamest commercials appeared during a much more sedate competition
-- the final round Masters Golf Championship, which had no violent commercials whatsoever.
Many of the violent ads came
straight from movies & TV. Commercials for movies accounted for almost half of all violent ads, while 38% promoted TV
shows. TV has long been seen as a possible influence on children's minds & behavior, but most studies have focused on
TV shows, not commercials.
TV ads aren't rated, so how
should parents respond? Becoming aware of content is one step. Parents should limit & supervise what their children watch -- including the ads & may also consider installing commercial-skipping devices, say the researchers.
What do I do if a kid at school is picking on me? A bully usually feels badly about himself
& that's why he picks on people. I know you want to stand up to him, but try hard not to get mad or let him provoke you.
If you feel like you can handle it, try to stand tall & say, "I'm not going to fight with you."
But remember, you don't have to handle it on your own. I'm there for you & if you need me to talk w/your teacher or principal,
I will.
What do I do
if I see someone bring a gun to school? If you ever see a gun anywhere, never touch it. It is important that you tell an adult-like your teacher or us, right
away. That way, you'll stay safe and help make sure no one else gets hurt.
Common Sense 10 Point Plan to Address
the Problem of School Violence by
David Fassler, M.D.
Over the past year, we've
witnessed a disturbing increase in violence & threats of violence in our nation's schools. The causes behind each of these
incidents are unique & complex & there are clearly no simple answers or magical solutions.
However, there are some common
sense steps that schools, communities & families can take to help keep our children safe & reduce the risk of future
tragedies. Such steps include:
Identify kids w/problems.
Most kids who behave violently
in school have a long history of emotional & behavioral problems. In many cases, signs
& symptoms of trouble have existed for years. We know a lot about the early warning signs & situational risk factors
which can lead to violent behavior. They include:
Kids who display such signs
& symptoms should be referred for evaluation & treatment by a mental health professional who has specific training,
experience & expertise in working w/children & adolescents.
Reduce class sizes. In a large class, it's
harder for the teacher to really know & monitor kids as closely. Smaller classes allow more contact between the teacher
& each child. As a result, kids w/ significant problems are more likely to be identified early.
Reduce access to guns. We have to get much
more serious about limiting the overall access kids have to guns. This includes age limits on the purchase of guns & ammunition,
mandatory trigger locks, increased penalties for illegal sales.
Eliminate bullying. Children should be
able to go to school w/out fear of harassment. Bullying creates lifelong problems w/self-esteem & it interferes w/learning & school performance.
It can also lead to depression & occasionally, aggressive behavior or violent retaliation. Schools should practice "zero tolerance" for bullying, starting in the early grades. Experience shows
that bullying can be fully eliminated w/a coordinated & consistent effort.
Provide access to mental health care. We
need to do whatever we can to remove barriers to accessing appropriate mental health care. Receiving services in a school-based
health center may be easier than going to a private office or a community clinic. We also need to make sure there is adequate
funding to support both mental health evaluation & ongoing treatment, when indicated.
We also need to teach our kids to
tell us when their friends need help. As we've learned, most kids will tell someone before attempting suicide or engaging
in violent or dangerous behavior. When kids hear such boasts, threats or warnings, they need to tell a responsible adult.
They shouldn't be put in the position of deciding whether the threat is "serious" or not.
Many kids feel isolated & that they are the only ones w/problems. Peer support groups provide an opportunity for kids to learn that others are dealing w/similar issues & experiences. Such groups can also
serve as another early warning system for identifying kids who are particularly vulnerable, fragile or troubled.
We need to identify kids w/problems
as early as possible & make sure they get the help they need. We also need to expand our drug education efforts in the
early grades, & strictly enforce laws concerning the purchase or possession of alcohol by minors.
Enhance parent & community involvement.
We know from research & experience that kids do better when parents are involved w/their school. Schools need to be integrated
into the community.
They need to reflect & express the values of that community. Local businesses can also play a valuable role. Mentoring programs, after school jobs & inservice presentations all
help kids stay connected to their communities & less likely to have problems.
Some people may say that the
job of a school system is to teach kids, not to deal w/"social issues." But our schools aren't & can't be isolated from the social issues which face children in today's world.
We'll do better if the schools
confront & address these issues head on & help kids figure out how to deal w/real life problems. In addition, we need
to broaden our definition of education. We need to educate kids for life, not just for test taking, college admissions or
future employment.
Individually, none of the
above suggestions will solve the problem of school violence. But collectively, they would represent a significant shift in
the philosophy & orientation of our educational system.
Our schools are full of troubled
kids. By working together, parents, teachers & communities can develop effective strategies to identify kids who need
help & intervene as early as possible. Such an approach would ultimately lead to safer schools & a better educational experience for our children.
David Fassler, M.D. is a board certified child & adolescent
psychiatrist practicing in Burlington, Vermont. He's a member of the Work Group on Consumer Issues of the American Academy
of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry & is the coauthor of "Help Me, I'm Sad: Recognizing, Treating & Preventing Childhood
& Adolescent Depression (Viking, 1997)."
THURSDAY, Sept. 15
(HealthDay News) - Teens who suffer or witness violence undergo physiological changes that can affect their physical & emotional health for years, researchers report.
The study of 115 teens found that those exposed to violence - either as victims or witnesses - had higher blood pressure & heart rates & increased levels of cortisol, a
"fight or flight" hormone that regulates a number of important body functions.
"The risk factors of
higher blood pressure, heart rate & cortisol have been associated with cardiovascular problems later
in life such as hypertension & atherosclerosis," study co-author Edith Chen, of the University of British Columbia,
Vancouver, said in a prepared statement.
She & her colleagues also
found that, the more teens were exposed to violence, the greater their decrease in cardiovascular
response. This suggests a "numbing" effect, the researchers said -- the more they're exposed to violence, the less teens react
to it on cardiovascular testing.
This numbing response "suggests
a deregulated physiological system, such that individuals may not be able to mount appropriate physical responses to future
stressors they encounter later in life," Chen said.
The study found that white
teens reported lower rates of exposure to violence than black teens & that white teens had lower baseline heart rate variability
& higher cortisol levels than black teens.
"Our results suggest that
exposure to violence can be conceptualized as a chronic stressor that is internalized & has lasting effects on basal
neuroendocrine & cardiovascular systems of adolescents," the study authors wrote.
The study findings appear
in the October issue of the Annals of Behavioral Medicine.
More information
The American Psychological Association has more about youth violence (www.apa.org ).
My emotional feelings led to my drug use, but drugs led to a lot of mental health problems down the road, so it's like a viscious cycle."
"My substance abuse fed my mental health problems & made them much worse..."
Youth respondents from the report, "Blamed & Ashamed,"
Federation of Families for Children's Mental Health
"When an
emotionally troubled kid self-medicates w/pot & alcohol the interaction can be explosive & catastrophic.
It can start
w/a depressed, scared, lonely 11 year old girl or boy; who drinks & smokes pot for temporary relief; who finds that drinking & drugging is the admission fee to get into the crowd; who messes up at school; who gets into
trouble w/the law; who may end up in a psychiatric hospital, looking more mentally ill than they really are, or in a drug
rehab center or homeless.
And by 16
or 17 you wouldn't know it's the same nice but unhappy 11 year old who needed help, didn't get it & took slow poison instead."
Dr. Bert Pepper, M.D.M.S., Founder & Executive Director
of The Information Exchange
These behaviors include
aggressive behavior or violence by the teen, drug or alcohol abuse, promiscuity, school truancy, brushes w/the law or runaway behavior. Likewise, if a parent is resorting to hitting or other violent behavior in an attempt
to maintain discipline, this is a strong danger sign.
Parents! Read this because your
teen really wants you to know this about what teensthink!
Above all, young people make quite clear that they really do want to hear from their parents, in particular, about sex, love, relationships & values, even if they don't always act like it.
Teens tell us that they appreciate adult advice & support & welcome closeness & communication w/grown ups. They say, however, that they often get lectures rather than conversations - or sometimes
just awkward, even icy silence.
Moreover, they seem perplexed
by the disagreements adults often have about abstinence & contraception that frequently hamper
efforts to help young people. In the midst of such concerns, we hope this new edition of Talking Back helps adults & parents
in 3 ways:
First, by letting them
know that their efforts to help teens really do make a difference - that when it comes to young people's decisions about sex, it isn't just peers & popular
culture that matter
Second, we hope that
this publication offers the kind of practical advice that will make parents jobs just a bit easier.
Third, we hope that what
teens have offered here helps adults communicate better w/young people & overcome the polarization that often surrounds efforts
to prevent teen pregnancy.
Teen Girls Feel Pressure to Have Unwanted Sex: 4 out of 10 said they've complied with boyfriends' demands
Show us why teen pregnancy is such
a bad idea.
i.e., let us
hear directly from teen parents about how hard it has been for them. Hearing the real story
from teen mothers & fathers can make a big difference. Help us understand why teen pregnancy can get in the way of reaching our goals.
We're
as influenced by what you do as by what you say. We know what hypocrisy means &
what it looks like. If you show respectful communication & responsibility yourselves, we'll be more likely to follow your example. We also don't expect you to be perfect & want you to know that we can learn from your difficult experiences & mistakes as well.
Just because we're young
doesn't mean that we can't fall in love or be interested in sex. These feelings are very real & powerful to us. Talk to us about all this (but no lectures, please). If you won't discuss these issues
with us, please help us find another adult who will.
It's important to establish & maintain good
communication w/your teen.
Get into the habit of
talking w/your teen every day. Building a close relationship w/he or she when s/he's young will make it easier for her to come to you when s/he has a problem & will help you become
more sensitive to their mood changes.
How do I know
when having sex is the right thing to do? Should I wait until marriage? How far is too far for me or someone my age? How do
I say no? How do I handle all the pressures from my friends? If we don't start these conversations, you should.
Whether
we're having sex or not, we need to be prepared.
Talking Sex
W/TeensGive your child accurate information
(HealthDayNews) While few parents relish the idea of talking to their teenage children about sex, don't shy away from the subject, advises the American Medical Association.
Here are some tips to guide your talks:
Give your
teens accurate information. They need the facts if they're to protect themselves against pressure to have sex, unintended pregnancy & HIV/AIDS & other sexual diseases.
If talking w/your child about sex is awkward
for you, admit it & keep your sense of humor.
Share your values regarding sex. If you believe a person should save having sex until marriage, say so. But accept that your teen may make different choices.
Don't assume that
if your child asks questions about sex, he or she is necessary having sex.
If you can't answer all of your
teen's questions, research the information together.
Reassure your child that it's OK
to be a virgin. Emphasize that the decision to become sexually active is too important to be based
on what other people think or do.
Your first sex talk shouldn't be your last.
Talk about these issues on an ongoing basis.
Felicity Stone
If we ask you about sex or birth
control, don't assume we're already "doing it."
Reward us for doing the right thing - even when it seems like no big thing. Don't
shower us w/attention only when we do something wrong.
The more involved
you're in good ways, the less likely we'll be to make bad decisions. Talk w/us about our friends, our school, what we're interested
in & worried about - even the latest gossip. Come to our games & to school things. Show us that you care what is happening in our lives.
Fathers
who leave their families may increase their daughters' risk for early
sexual activity & teenage pregnancy, suggest the results
of long-term studies in the US & in New Zealand.
The association
between father absence & early teenage sexual activity & pregnancy has long been noted, but many researchers have
attributed it to factors associated w/divorce including poverty, family conflict & erosion of parental monitoring.
But the
new findings suggest a more direct link between a father's absence & his daughter's early teenage sexual activity &
pregnancy.
"These
findings may support social policies that encourage fathers to form & remain in families w/their children," unless there
is violence or a high degree of conflict, says study author Bruce J. Ellis of the Dept. of Psychology at the University of
Canterbury in Christchurch, New Zealand.
Among
Western industrialized countries, the US & New Zealand have the 1st & 2nd-highest rates of teenage pregnancy, past
research has shown. Teenage childbearing is associated w/a host of problems, including lower
educational & career achievements, health problems & inadequate social support for parenting.
"Given
these costs to adolescents & their children, it's critical to identify life experiences & pathways that place girls
at increased risk for early sexual activity & adolescent pregnancy," Ellis says.
Ellis
& colleagues analyzed data from 2 long-term studies that followed the progress of 242 girls in the US & 520 girls
in New Zealand for their entire childhoods, from before kindergarten
to approximately age 18.
Based
on multiple interviews & questionnaires administered over the years to both parents & children, the data covered everything
from family demographics to parenting styles & child behavioral problems to childhood academic performance.
The researchers
defined absence of the biological or adoptive birth father at
or before the child reached age 5 as early onset of father absence, while late onset of father
absence was defined as occurring when the child was between 6
& 13.
The researchers
found that father absence places daughters at special risk for early sexual activity
& teenage pregnancy. While the researchers said these findings
need to be replicated in non-Western, "the striking similarity in results across the US & New Zealand samples underscores
the robustness & generalizability of the findings," Ellis says.
The study
results are published in the current issue of the journal Child Development.
Ellis
& colleagues noted that girls whose fathers left the family earlier in their lives had the highest rates of both early sexual activity & adolescent pregnancy, followed by those
whose fathers left at a later age, followed by girls whose fathers were present.
"It isn't
just a matter of whether the father is absent, but the timing of that absence," Ellis says.
"This
issue may be especially relevant to predicting rates of teenage pregnancy, which were 7
to 8 times higher among early father-absent girls, but only 2 to 3 times higher among
later father-absent girls, than among father-present girls."
Even when
the researchers took into account other factors that could have contributed to early sexual activity & pregnancy, such
as behavioral problems & life adversity, early father-absent girls were still about
5 times more likely in the US & 3 times more likely in New
Zealand to experience an adolescent pregnancy than were father-present girls.
Girls
who grew up in otherwise socially & economically privileged homes weren't protected. "Father
absence was so fundamentally linked to teenage pregnancy that its effects were largely undiminished by such factors as whether girls were:
The researchers
suggested several mechanisms to explain the results. One is that a longer duration of father absence
results in the daughters having greater exposure to their mothers' dating & future relationship behaviors & this exposure may encourage earlier onset of sexual behavior in daughters.
Another
possibility is that girls who experience father absence may undergo early personality changes
that orient them toward early & unstable bonds w/men.
One study
weakness is that it couldn't identify possible genetic
causes for the findings, say the study authors.
i.e, fathers
whose inherited temperaments predispose them toward aggression, disruption & resistance to control may be more likely to abandon their families. Daughters who inherit such traits may be more likely to engage in
early sexual activity.
In
the US, this work was supported by the National Institute of Mental Health & the National Institute of Child Health &
Human Development. In New Zealand, this work was supported by the Health Research Council, National Child Health Research
Foundation, the Canterbury Medical Research Foundation & the New Zealand Lottery Grants Board.
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Sometimes we have sex because there's not much else to do. If you can't be home w/us when we're not in school,
know what we're up to make sure we have something to do that we really like, where there are other kids & some adults around who are comfortable w/us. If we're at a party, make sure there is an adult around.
Do you know what your
teenlistens to & reads & how she/or he spends time with his/her friends? Talking w/your child about her interests opens up an opportunity for you to share your values. And research says that monitoring your child's activities is an important way to lower her chances of getting involved in
situations you don't approve of, especially those that can be harmful.
Unsupervised children simply have more opportunities to experiment w/risky behaviors, including the use of alcohol, tobacco & illegal drugs & they may start substance abuse at earlier ages.
We really care what you think, even if we don't always act like it.
Even though we may look
all grown up, we still want your help & advice. But remember, we're
living in a very different time than when you were growing up. Your experiences weren't the same as ours & the
choices we face are often different. When we don't do exactly what you tell us to do, don't think you failed & don't stop trying.
Please don't sit us down
for a "sex talk." Instead, start talking with us about
sex, love & relationships when we're young & keep the conversation going as we grow older.
For us, it's not about abstinence or contraception; it's about abstinence & contraception.
We get it. We know the best way to protect ourselves is not to have sex. But we also need to know about contraception. It seems to us that adults waste an awful lot of time arguing about all this.
Understanding Co-occurring Disorders
Although the connection between co-occuring mental health & substance use disorders isn't completely understood, some researchers hypothesize that the prevalence can be attributed to self-medication, meaning people suffering from undiagnosed mental illnesses may use substances to help them cope w/symptoms such as depression or anxiety.
This theory can be easily applied to youth, since experts believe that 1 in 10 children & adolescents in the US suffer from mental illness, yet fewer
than 1 in 5 receives appropriate treatment.
When youth who lack proper care turn to drugs in an attempt to alleviate their emotional/mental symptoms, they frequently develop another serious problem - drug addiction. In fact, one study funded
by the US Dept. of Health & Human Services revealed that among adolescents w/co-occuring disorders, the mental disorder preceded the drug addiction more than 83% of the time.
Unfortunately, teens with co-occurring mental health & substance use disorderswho don't get help can face
devastating consequences, since drug use only exacerbates their illnesses.
Research among adults shows that individuals
with mental illnesses who also abuse drugs are at greater risk for hospitalization, housing instability, homelessness & incarceration.
In fact, nearly
2/3 of incarcerated youth w/substance use disorders have at least one other mental health disorder.
Youth w/co-occurring
disorders are also at risk for the same dangers that afflict all drug users, such as contracting HIV.
Proper treatment for co-occurring disorders is difficult to find because programs
that treat substance abuse are often not equipped to deal with mental health disorders & mental health services may not effectively address substance abuse, even though many experts agree the disorders should be treated simultaneously.
The most common cause of psychiatric relapse is continuing drug use & conversely, substance abuse relapse is often influenced by untreated psychiatric symptoms. Integrated treatment also
rapidly decreases suicide attempts & psychotic episodes.
this information obtained here (click for references also) The National Youth Anti-Drug Media Campaign - The National Mental Health Awareness Campaign
From Medscape Pediatrics Pediatrics Perspective
Ecstasy
Posted 01/30/2004 Howard Markel, MD, PhD
DJ's life mirrors
that of many American teenagers of the 21st century. His parents divorcedwhen he was 3 & he has had little contact with his father since that time.
In kindergarten, he had problems paying attention to the teacher. By age 9, he was diagnosed with multiple learning disabilities & depression.
Regardless of
the pharmacologic slurry he takes every morning, his days resemble an endless "Perils of Pauline" serial: one serious scrape
after another, with his mother & sister, with his teachers & more recently, with the law.
Before turning 12, DJbegan using alcohol & marijuana. At 14, he was rushed to the emergency room after snorting too many lines of crushed Ritalin. By his 16th birthday,
he was a bona fide addict.
He ingests anything he thinks will get him high. Each attempt DJ has made at abstinence over the last few years has lasted for short periods, typically
a few days but once as long as 2 months.
Last week, however,
DJ, now 19, looked strikingly haggard, tired & sad. His latest escapade involved attacking a boy who "looked at me funny."
DJ was awaiting
a trial for felonious assault, a crime that might carry a penalty of significant jail time. Equally troubling, he described
symptoms of depression & intense anxiety, if not outright paranoia.
He keeps a knife
under his pillow at night & worries incessantly about being killed. DJ's main physical
complaint, however, concerned a recent onset of teeth grinding & pain in the masseter muscles, which facilitate the movement
of the jaws.
Nevertheless, DJ's complaints
didn't exactly encourage the easy assumption that his legal problems exacerbated his depression & I wasn't inspired to merely increase the dosage of his antidepressants.
DJ volunteered
that he was abstaining from pot, LSD, speed & alcohol to demonstrate to the judge that he deserves a second chance & a period of supervised probation.
"So you're not
using any drugs now?" I asked. DJ replied, "No" & then after a brief pause, added, "Well, I started rolling a lot of E over the past few months, maybe a couple of tabs every other night. But E's no big deal. It's safe, right?"
By E, he meant Ecstasy, or 3-4 methylenedioxy-amphetamine (MDMA). Thanks to his honest confession, the disparate components of his medical history suddenly pointed to an understanding of this particular problem. DJ had found a new drug to play with.
MDMA is easily absorbed in
the small intestine, from where its molecules travel rapidly to the brain. Once there, they block the reabsorption of the
neurochemicals serotonin & dopamine from the synapses between neurons. The rush of these chemicals unleashes a tidal wave of impulses to the centers of the brain
that monitor thirst & hunger, mood & emotion & even the pathways that help controlthoughts of anxiety & paranoia. Ecstasy also causes an involuntary grinding of one's teeth. At rave parties, whereEcstasy is so popular, it's treasured for its energizing effects, mild but pleasant hallucinations of light & sound & feelings of intense euphoria.
Recent studies of Ecstasy use have overturned some of the earlier, more frightening declarations that the drug causes serious depression & other mood disorders or permanent damage. Most experts agree, however, that large or repeated doses can cause memory impairment & deadly episodes
of dehydration & cardiac disturbances. Is it addictive? We simply don't know for sure.
"No, it's not safe. It's most likely pretty dangerous," I told DJ. Yet I had little hope that my inconclusive advice would alter his drug-taking behaviors. Whenever I see him, I pretty much assume he'll be taking
a hit of something shortly after he leaves my clinic. Exactly where these pills he calls "E" will take him - especially in concert with the medicines his doctors prescribe & those he abuses illegally - remains unclear. But it is definitely no place good.